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They don't like me do they ...aibu?

46 replies

hallybarry · 17/12/2019 15:55

A good friend invited me out with 2 of her other friends.
I've always got vibes that they didn't like me.
I suffer from anxiety and have zero confidence so tried to tell myself it was my imagination.
Saturday night we went out and my friend said "those guys are totally checking you out and looking at you"
Girl number 1 said .."no they aren't looking at her,they looking at you"
Girl number 2 said "they are looking at her ..only because of the camel toe she has in them trousers"
They don't Like me do they ?

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IwantedtobeEmmaPeel · 17/12/2019 16:48

Well number 2 made a bitchy comment and is an illiterate bitch person.

Branleuse · 17/12/2019 16:48

Yeah woman 2 is definitely bitchy. Its not you, its her

messolini9 · 17/12/2019 16:57

@hallybarry - Soory to hear about your anxiety, it's a bitch to deal with.
It can also make us focus on irrelevancies ... or ask the wrong questions.
In this case, I'd like to kindly suggest to you that instead of asking "they don't like me, do they?", the question you need to be asking is:
"Do I like them?"

Hint: - I didn't have to endure any time in their company, & I already dislike them. Girl No.1 is tactless, & Girl No. 2 is a Mean Girl who has to live with herself for the rest of her life - ugh.

Forget these airheads, & their obsession with who is looking at whom. If a man wants you - he lets you know. There's no need to wonder, or to measure yourself/other women against some daft perception of what's cool or attractive or acceptable.

I trust Good Friend has already offered you some reassurance about the catty remarks? - if not, I'd be reassessing her, & her need to associate with such twattery, as well.

Only hang out with folk who make you feel good, & happy, & positive, Hally. You've got enough on your plate dealing with anxiety, without other people actively seeking to diminish or shame you.

Sn0tnose · 17/12/2019 17:08

Messolini is spot on. Never mind about whether they like you, the question to ask is whether you like them.

If your friend asks you out with them again, tell her that you would love to see her another time but couldn’t think of anything you’d rather do less than socialise with her friends because they are horrible arseholes and you do not like them.

mummmy2017 · 17/12/2019 17:13

Ha ha.
You do know they think your better looking and are trying to put you down.
Men like real women, they can talk to and enjoy being with. These pair of clowns are major losers.

BennyTheBall · 17/12/2019 17:14

They’re bitches with bad grammar. Ignore and smile.

StormTreader · 17/12/2019 17:21

Girl number 2 said "they are looking at her ..only because of the camel toe she has in them trousers"

"Sounds like you've been checking me out as well! I'm flattered but you're not my type, sorry" Grin

dottiedodah · 17/12/2019 17:27

Well at 29 and 33 they are hardly "girls" are they! Perhaps they should grow up and stop acting like a bitchy double act!

Pinot4me · 17/12/2019 17:36

What a horrible thing to say! Ignore her.... she matters not!

virginpinkmartini · 17/12/2019 17:41

Lol OP they sound beneath you. Strong women who can hold their own don't need to drag the competition down.

I'd see it as flattering.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 17/12/2019 18:14

That’s the thing you see with bullies.
Sadly they never leave the play ground.
They target those who perceive to be weak.
Well they daresent fight those able for them.
They’ll meet their match one day and pass comment to the wrong person

TheSpatchcock · 17/12/2019 18:34

Clear jealousy.

WoollyMollyMonkey · 17/12/2019 18:43

What on earth is a camel toe?!

Sn0tnose has the right reply If your friend asks you out with them again, tell her that you would love to see her another time but couldn’t think of anything you’d rather do less than socialise with her friends because they are horrible arseholes and you do not like them. Say this.

hallybarry · 17/12/2019 19:18

Tbh I didn't have any problem with them until I realised they didn't like me.
I've never done anything they just seem to have this dislike towards me for no reason.

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Jellybeansincognito · 17/12/2019 19:21

Of course there’s a reason op.
They’re jealous of you.

torain6319 · 17/12/2019 20:01

OP I’m sorry that happened to you. Just tell your good friend next that you don’t want to go. They sound awful. Probably don’t like themselves so how can they like others? Your friend liking them is sort of strange too. Sounds like a setup.

Recrim · 17/12/2019 21:34

What did your friend say? What did you do?
Im so sorry. I probably would have left Nd had a cry in the bathroom.

ittakes2 · 18/12/2019 07:36

I don’t think it matters if they do or don’t like you. With the whole confidence issue - best to view life as do you like them or not. Sounds like at least one of them is not nice do no one would blame you if you didn’t.

formyownbenefit · 18/12/2019 12:50

Doubt they don't like you as ur friend wouldn't have invited u if that was the case they are probably nasty people in general. Wouldn't worrySmile

nowaypose · 18/12/2019 12:51

I call men bitchy too when they are acting bitchy, it just means catty and isn’t exclusive to women.

They don’t sound pleasant, I wouldn’t be rushing back to spend time with them.

ISmellBabies · 18/12/2019 13:05

Camel toe cunt (ctc) definitely doesn't like you. I also suspect the other two might not be keen either because they didn't call out ctc for being so nasty. I'd have said "don't be such a cunt" even if, for some reason, I actually liked ctc.

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