So backstory
FIL didn’t have contact with DH and SIL from when they were approx 4 & 6. He has lived abroad etc and basically never kept in touch after he divorced MIL.
Got back in contact when they were in 20’s and has had occasional contact since.
During the last 14 years of him being around again he has managed to upset everyone multiple time and generally been tactless. One example is whilst holding a second son when he was 3 days old told SIL it was a shame it hadn’t been a girl, you can imagine that didn’t go well with a highly hormonal new mum. many similar situations equally bad have occurred. Including just not turning up to a wedding and generally dismissive and unkind behavior around grandchildren.
Well we all went low contact and avoided him.
He has now sent MIL ( not an easy woman at the best of times) a long letter justifying his behavior and criticizing us all. But he has really ripped into his own daughter (SIL) and myself. We have been accused of being difficult, sharp tongued and complete divas who have deliberately turned the grandchildren against him. He also quoted an incident when a small child approx 6 years old answered the phone and was apparently very rude to him “ fat , old , smelly poo man”. Ok that is bad and obviously not a great parenting moment but children can sometimes be difficult. Obviously it’s the mothers fault for putting that thought in the child’s head.
MIL is now really furious with her children and children in Law for all this and demanding we all apologize etc etc.
Basically I don’t want to be bullied by this man.
AIBU to actually never have any contact with him again ( I’m obviously not capable of keeping my feelings on him to myself now).
Or perhaps you could suggest ways we could all fake liking him?
I needed that little rant