Painting Their Room

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So, one of my fourteen year olds wishes to paint their room black. I think they are going through a goth phase or something, as what they wear is changing too. I told her no because when we first moved in to our new place about 2 years ago, we let her paint her room yellow after her insisting that she would still like it later(It's a sort of lemony yellow). She promises to do all the work herself, but the likelihood is that either me or my wife will end up doing it. She got very upset with me, and so I'm conflicted. Should I let her paint it?

Lol let her do it. She's got to live in it. Don't finish it for her though.

Let her do it

Let her do it.

Let her do one wall first and see how she feels about that,

My parents did and I loved it for many years.

The decorator moaned a lot when they renovated about having to do additional coats to cover it . But worth it I feel!

I wanted a black room as a teenager. My parents wouldn’t let me, but conceded and let me have black woodwork/door etc with purple walls. It looked fantastic! I still hanker after a black room, maybe if I outlive my husband I will one day have one

I painted my bedroom black when I left home because I was never allowed, I’m nearly 30 and everywhere I move I paint it black. Sometimes the goth thing doesn’t phase away I would let her paint it if she does it herself

I painted my DD’s room bright pink at her request... In my black and grey house! It pained me to do it but we all like what we like 😂😂

No black will be difficult to change and require lots of coats to get back to a lighter colour. Too much work further down the line and it is most definitely a phase. I went through this phase and now have a billion piercing holes in my face. Not good.
Aube compromise with grey? Not too dark but still void of colour.

I wanted a black room but decided against it because I realised I'd never see spiders. If she doesn't like spiders tell her she could have loads of big ones and not know where they are
If she likes spiders this won't work.

Thank you, I'll talk to her about this as it seems like a good compromise

In my teenage bedroom I had 2 black walls and 2 blood red walls. Thinking back now it was hideous but I loved it at the time. Had all sorts of burlesque shit hanging about too.

Let her do it!

I did paint my room black, when I was cca 16 and had my black/ gothic era.
I loved it- but when I move out of house- my mom said it was pain to repaint the colour.

Ask your daughter to Google black bedroom ideas and show you her ideas (I just did and I think they are hideous but each to their own). Compromise might be one black feature wall - perhaps in paper rather than paint? Or a black/gothic bedstead) I would try to go for grey or dark teal feature wall with dark/black bed and soft furnishings and negotiate from there. See if you can find and pictures of rooms that you both like.

Oooh, do magnetic chalkboard paint! Just because...

If she likes spiders this won't work. Amazing 😂

Can you put lining paper up first, so you can strip the paper if you decide to move away from black walls at some point?

Let her do it, she’ll be leaving home before you know it and you’ll miss her. It’s not harming anyone and would make her happy or at least she will know her voice is being heard (which is something important for this age group).
Suggest you paint a feature wall in black and do it together so she learns the way to do it properly. If it looks OK maybe she can paint the other walls herself. And try not to get annoyed if she makes a mess during the decorating process - how else is she to learn?!
Also, let her know you’d help her change the colour again if she realises that black walls are not really her thing. There’s nothing like having your dad on your side in this life when you are a girl.
Black is not only for the gothic look. The Kardashians use a lot of black in their houses on TV if your DD dislikes the Kardashians, she might change her mind

It’s fashionable! Very in at the moment. Black or dusky blue-black walls. Can look amazing.

Make her agree to put it back to neutral when she's tired of it though.

Maybe encourage a slate grey which is still dark but she can change soft furnishings to make the room different when she’s not in this phase anymore so you’re not trying to paint over it in 2 years🤣

Aubergine would be better. Bit depressing for my taste though, but each to their own.
You might want to suggest also that dark walls will make her room feel a lot smaller... maybe paint one wall first and see if she’ll be happy with just that.

Encourage it to be papered. Either with gothic black patterned wallpaper or plain/anaglypta wallpaper that can be painted.

Black paint can be so hard to deal with. If your happy to let her choose her decor, she also needs to accept you may have some conditions to allow the room to return to a more neutral state, whether it be a room swap, changing to a guest room or selling the house.

Encourage a more fully fledged idea. Painting it black instead of yellow isnt really a complete plan. Black needs pattern and contrast to make a striking effect. Otherwise it probably will feel small and dungeony. What about furniture? Nothing will spoil an all black dungeon effect quicker than a lemon yellow futon or bedspread.

Covering black later is a total pain in the neck. Compromise with a black feature wall.