He wants to stay friends aibu if I don’t want to
Youngmumm · 16/12/2019 15:39
Hey , I had casual sex sometime last year and have remained in contact with him. We expressed that we really liked each other... but I didn’t want a relationship as I was too busy being a mum to my 3year old. There was a time he booked a 5 star hotel for us but I let him know I couldn’t make it because my child comes first. Long story short I come to find out he has a girlfriend but he still kept being really flirty with me and telling me he liked and missed me but I would ignore him or give one word replies. I started talking to him again as just friends but he would always be extremely flirty with me and would want to see me but I would always shut down the conversation. His girlfriend recently contacted me because she found texts from me in his phone and told me they have a baby together, I felt really bad and reassured her that nothing is going on between me and him. I then called him and told him we need to stop talking, he then refused and said we should remain friends. Aibu to tell her that me and him slept together in the past ? And Aibu if I cut ties with him even though he wants to remain “friends” for I reason I do not know.
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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LonginesPrime · 16/12/2019 15:45
I then called him and told him we need to stop talking, he then refused and said we should remain friends.
Well, he sounds lovely!
If you don't want to be friends with him, he can't override that.
Just block him and move on - he sounds like a dick. Don't let either of them suck you into their drama - just steer clear and be thankful you're not the girlfriend!
Whiskeylover45 · 16/12/2019 16:12
Sounds like my old fwb. It was nothing more but he still sent me flirty texts while I was with, now DH, then DP. I told him straight I wasnt interested. It was made worse because he had a lass at the time with, like us, a baby on the way. He stopped since his bairn was born but still have him on fb. Virtually no messages anymore. I would just ignore. If he doesnt get the message just block on everything.
Lindy2 · 16/12/2019 16:28
He wants to stay friends because he thinks he might get another shag out of you.
You are still interacting with him because you like the fact he is flirting with you.
He has a girlfriend and child. He is clearly a cheating slime ball.
Do the right thing and block him to stop lots of people, including you, being emotionally hurt by him at some point in the future. If you don't care about the risk that you'll be hurt by him do it for his child.
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