To ask you if I'm being ridiculous about this?

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I need you lot on here to tell me if I'm overthinking this or just being ridiculous..

Basically I had a baby just over 7 months ago. I've been at my current workplace for almost 3 years and have a great relationship with many of my colleagues. I had baby and received an email of congratulations from my line manager. Didn't receive a card or anything which I thought was weird because work have always sent at least a card out whenever there's been special occasions.

My partners work were amazing, they sent a card, had some photos put in frames and bought us some lovely outfits from Next.

Anyway, a deputy at work has just had his first baby also with his wife. They sent a card round for everyone to sign and I've seen numerous emails of congratulations since the birth was announced. He's been there a lot less time than I have.

AIBU to actually feel a bit pissed off at this or am I being silly? I need some honesty.

YANBU. That's odd, although these things do happen. Often you get one person who is a bit of a ring-leader with getting things organised, and if they happen to be having an off-day, no-one steps in the fill the breach!

I think you're allowed to be a bit peeved at it, but ultimately I would let it go. It doesn't mean anything more than lack of organisation.

yes - you're right its shit

are you the organiser in your office? do you know who would normally do it?

I'd expect a card from my work colleagues, especially if you get on great with them.

I'm not the organiser, no. We have a dedicated person that does all of that sort of stuff so to speak but they didn't even bother to send a card.

It leaves me feeling a bit bitter to be honest.

Even if the "organiser" isn't about, usually seniors just pick up a card. Didn't happen in my case!

Received nothing from my workplace of 2 years when I had my DC.Received one card and gift from a colleague who passed my house on way to work .
This was the type of workplace that would organise leaving gifts for someone who had worked there two months.
I also never got a Christmas card.
I am actually a very nice, friendly and kind person

I found out after returning from maternity leave that there had been a collection when I went off but my manager (who left by the time I returned) hadnt bothered to get me anything.

Make a mental note to opt out of all donation requests.
Nasty fuckers!!
Feel smug you have a squishy baby this Xmas while they are working!!

A colleague of mine got me a card and an outfit for DS, but that was totally personal and separate from work.

It's really miffed me off that they've made such a fuss about someone else's baby and I hardly even got a bloody congratulations

Similar happened to me. It just underlined that work 'friends' aren't friends. They're acquaintances you work with! Focus on the people you really love & keep your distance at work.

The card could have got lost in the post, but if not, yeah it’s definitely very shitty of them.

YANBU at all, it’s really hurtful!
It happened to me too.
I didn’t even get an email.
Nobody said goodbye on their last shifts with me, just pissed off home for their tea. I was so upset one of the two people who actually cared enough to say goodbye took me out to try and cheer me up.
When those back at work heard a colleague was coming to my other child’s birthday party they quickly got 6 people to sign a card, and got me the cheapest, half-dead flowers from the corner shop.
I wasn’t impressed. Even my colleague was outraged and told them to do what they do for everyone else when they have a baby, and the manager just shrugged and said no.

They usually get everyone to sign a card, and if it’s a big occasion people chip in for a gift - I’m not arsed about a gift, but a thought out card and a goodbye would have been really appreciated.
They got someone who’d worked there for however many years a huge beautiful bunch of flowers, and a big card, then the same person a handbag and other bits for heir 60th.
They even did a sodding card for someone who only worked there for 3 months and left! I’ve been there for 5 years but in the company for 8 so not exactly someone who’s been there 5 minutes.
When I go back I won’t be chipping in for anyone, I’ll only sign a card if thrust upon me, and I won’t be doing any of them favours which I have always done in the past.

To top it all off I asked to be invited to the Christmas do and they didn’t bother. To hell with them all.

Luckily I have two lovely friends who work there, or I probably wouldn’t even bother returning.