To ask what have been the best times and times of your life?has life peaked?

[WhatAMum01]

Feeling like it's been awfully long since I had some of the best times and wondering if I peaked and that's it.
Best times;
Meeting my husband and marrying him
Passing my driving test, 5th time lucky!
Having my kids
Watching my mum with my kids
Travelling with my husband before kids
Buying our home
Buying a decent car

Worst times
Losing my gran
Watching my mum struggle to feed 5 kids all alone while going hungry herself to enable this
Being groomed by older man who I thought I was in a relationship with(the shame of it all haunts me 30 years later)
Living with the fear my kids have a genetic disorder which they have symptoms for but drs havent been able to diagnose
The realisation my son was Autistic and its turned out severe with severe learning disabilities.
Struggling through most of the above mostly myself and dealing with mental health breakdown it has all caused.
Watching my little brother being heartbroken and completely change after his marriage breakdown.

My bad times definitely seem to outweigh my good times and the bad times have prevailed.

@Parkhead, you have my total respect to have survived what you have, my heart aches for you and rages at the same time at the injustice, I'm so very sorry.

@WhataMum01, I encourage you to go for it! When I did my degree, the oldest person there was 56, she was phenomenal.
I love my children and they are my everything but my career really is just for me and I love going to work every single day because I'm doing something I am so passionate about and I get paid to do it. I feel so, so lucky. It is a really, really hard degree to do, second only to a degree in medicine but believe me, if I can do it (I was pulled out of school at 15 so didn't even have GCSE's), then anyone can.

I believe it is never too late.

Oh and Findus Crispy Pancakes, the proper ones! I am a true 80's child, the food and the music is the only good thing about my childhood :)

I think there have been ups and downs throughout my life but generally I have been very fortunate. I feel very lucky to have been born at the right time that allowed me to go from a diabolical comprehensive school to medical school at a (now) Russell Group University purely on academic merit and with no concerns about finance. Had I been born a little earlier it is unlikely that the opportunity would have been there for a girl of my background and if I had been born a little later I think the prospect of that amount of student debt would have scared me off, and I doubt I would have had the support necessary to get through the current selection process for most medical schools.
Alot of the good things in my life have stemmed from that. And some of the bad to be fair as there have been some incredibly stessful parts of my career. However, I have had earning power that my parents never dreamed of, and it would have been completely inconceivable to their parents who were born into absolute poverty, that one of their grandchildren would be a doctor. It has given me opportunities beyond my wildest dreams as a child, in particular the ability to travel the world, and to bring my children up in comfort.
I have had low points of course, particularly around the time that I was working full time, had two preschoolers and my mum was dying a couple of hundred miles away. But overall there has been a lot more good than bad. Each phase has had its good and less good parts but there has always been something to look forward to and enjoy. Right now I am rather looking forward to retirement, though that seems to be getting further and further away!

Best times - My 20’s. Party, travel, money, party, travel, money....
Buying my first property and making ££££
Getting married
Having dc.

Worst times - moving to Oz away from everyone.
Marriage nearly broke up.
Df passed away.

My peak of happiness was at 30.

One of my ambitions in life is to be able to ride out life's highs and lows with a sense of steadiness, knowing that this too shall pass. It's not easy.

Highs
Meeting DH - love at first sight, it was a magical experience and I feel so lucky to have had it
Discovering my love for theatre
A glorious summer where I followed around a touring play, saw some beautiful places and made some wonderful friends
Two lovely years of living in London with DH before we got married
Beating PND and falling in love with my daughter

Lows
PND - by far the worst experience of my life, I thought it would kill me
Having to spend a year apart from DH
Wasting 10 years with an abusive boyfriend
Leaving London at 11 and being badly bullied
My mum being diagnosed with a chronic illness and changing as a person beyond recognition

In general I feel very lucky.

Low points:
Dad dying when I was 9
Getting diagnosed with dyspraxia at 10
Having a bad self esteem as a child.
My grandma died when I was 16 which reopened some old wounds from losing dad.
My grandad died when I was 18 from cancer.
My other grandad died from cancer a couple of weeks ago.
A couple of toxic cousins I had to cut out of my life.
Broke a rib from coughing and had tachycardia and struggled to get to work for a couple of months last year.
Quit two careers because they made me so unhappy.

High points
I managed to get 13 gcses and just about passed 3 a levels with near no support for my learning difficulties at school.
Moving for university and meeting DH there
Getting a dyslexia diagnosis and things making much more sense.
Getting married in october 2017 and putting an offer on our first house in december 2017.
The supportive friends I have, some since I was 13, have kept me from snapping through difficult times.
Getting a new job in august and being able to sleep properly and enjoy going to work again.

I'm 24 but after the harder things being younger, I never take my health or loved ones for granted as I don't know how much time I have with them.

High points:
My mum
My cat
My lovely rented home
My degree

Low points:
Autism and complex mh issues
Overdoses (4) as a teen
Raped at 9 by my brother
Molested at 4 by group of boys
Emotionally abusive father
Alcoholic stepdad/lots of domestic violence
Unemployment
No relationship
Can't drive due to autism and mental health issues

Highs -
Meeting my husband
Having my children
Going no contact with my mother
My wedding day
Silly things, like when we all act goofy and dance around the kitchen or when we group hug, money can’t buy moments

Lows -
Pretty much my entire childhood, which was pretty neglectful
Miscarriage at 12 weeks
HG in my pregnancy with my second
Losing one of my best friends

We are saving to buy a house, I’m hoping this will be a good high for our lives

It's pretty damn good right now. I had some amazing times with my stbexh but it was going downhill for years, after he left I was pretty low but I had great fun online dating and have now met an amazing man ... the icing on the cake will be to find a great job that will allow me to relocate sooner rather than later

This thread has made me realise that I don't feel anything of the good because of the bad. Can anyone relate to tht?

High points:

I felt really blissed out in the year following DDs birth - i had everything i wanted.
Attaining my Masters at long last, against the odds.
Various work achievements.

Low points:

Losing everything i wanted and had, due to husband becoming a tit -_- (or revealing his inner tittishness)
Death of grandparents
Whenever i've been out of work. I live to work.

I wish you all a fantastic 2020, full of happiness!
It's really hard when you've experienced such sadness or hardship I know from personal experience. I cannot type mine down.
When my life is going good I panic and expect things to go bad again...
It does because life is full of ups and downs! I would love to feel relaxed and calm, that every one is safe. That's my Christmas wish.

I'm humbled by the lows everyone here has dealt with. What amazing people you are.

I feel very lucky as I get older.

Highs:
Getting an Oxbridge choral scholarship (Only one from my childhood. I was pretty unhappy a lot of the time)
First trip to Vegas
Getting my first horse age 36 which I still pinch myself about
Having DD
My wedding day
Getting Ddog
Buying our current house and seeing the sunset from the window for the first time

Lows:
Not getting the grades I needed to take up my university place or my scholarship thanks to horrendous teaching errors
My parents' divorce
DM getting breast cancer
DF having a stroke
Losing my maternal grandparents within a week of each other (I lived with them for short periods growing up)
Redundancy and a job I hated
Spending a week in hospital after a ruptured appendix

I realise that my abusive first boyfriend who repeatedly forced me to have anal sex with him (usually in front of a mirror) because I was too tense and scared for him to shove it in the usual way didn't feature on this list until an afterthought. Which is hugely positive and shows me therapy does work and I must be happier now