Dress for wedding

[Sexnotgender]

My brother is getting married next year and I found a lovely dress to wear. Unfortunately it’s virtually identical in colour to the bridesmaids dresses.
AIBU not to buy it? My husband says it’s absolutely fine and no one will care but I think it’s nice if you know the colour of the BM dresses not to pick something the same!

Am I overthinking it😂

I don't think you should wear something so similar to the bridesmaids. Could you get a similar style in a different colour? Or even get fabric and ask a dressmaker to make it?

Pick something else. It’s not worth the potential fall out with your future SIL.

I bought a dress for SIL wedding and then found out she was after the same colour bridesmaid dresses. SIL was far from bridezilla but I didn’t want to look like I was trying to put myself in the wedding party when I hadn’t been asked, even though I’m fairly sure SIL wouldn’t have cared. Better to be safe than sorry and it sounds like you have time to find a new dress.

Do not buy it. You will look like you are trying to get into the bridal party. Is there a similar dress in a different colour you could buy instead?

Why dont you ask your brother / sister in law what they think? If it's the same colour but a totally different style it would probably be fine.

Don’t do it, some brides wouldn’t mind but it’s not worth the potential fall out. I went to a wedding where a couple of guests were dressed almost exactly the same as the bridesmaids, the bride didn’t care but some of the guests gossiped about it a lot!

I’m not intending to buy it, it’s 4 months until the wedding so no rush, I’m waiting for the sales!

Was just curious if I was being a numpty as DH was adamant it was absolutely fine to wear a dress the same colour.

DH is clearly not an expert in wedding etiquette! Why risk looking like a wannabe bridesmaid who missed the cut?! 😲

Absolutely don't do it. What on earth would your husband know about these things anyway?

No way, you'll look like you're trying to muscle in on the bridal party.

Everyone will think you are a wannabe bridesmaid and whisper about you.

Thank you for confirming my thoughts 😂

DH’s view is as long as you’re not wearing white it’s fine.

Don’t buy it I’ve done this by accident at a cousins wedding and it was embarrassing as it looked like I wanted to be a bridesmaid. I always ask the bridesmaids colours now to avoid it

Oh god I did this by accident once and wore the exact same shade of blue as the bridesmaids 😑 I was so embarrassed and people did gossip ha! Now I check the colours with the bride always! I wouldn’t wear the dress, do they have it in a different colour? Or darker shade etc

Equally would say dont do it, most of the time it happens no one is kicked out of the wedding. However if you are involved enough that you know the colours then it will look odd.

Don't!as pp said,you will give the impression you wanted to be a bridesmaid but weren't chosen so weirdly chose a dress the same colour as if to get your own way.find a different colour.(and be thankful you knew the colour scheme in advance😀)