To be so stupid and need help !

[JenNtonic]

Hi all, hope everybody’s well.
It’s been a crap year for me,
I fell pregnant in March, (my 2nd child and ex DPs 1st), I discovered that after a night out, he didn’t come home and that he’d been unfaithful in the and a day after that, I miscarried at 22 weeks 😣😰 ( I think it was due to the shock and the stress although I can’t prove this).
This caused my mental health to spiral out of control, long story short I have racked up about 2000 in rent arrears with the council.
I am now on my own with my son and although I did ask them to send me a form so that a friend could deal with it on my behalf, apparently they didn’t receive it. I have to admit I have ignored the door to a welfare liaison officer as I was sinking deeper and deeper in to grief and depression . I’m now on my own with my little boy, no partner, no baby and still fairly ill and on universal credit.
I have now received this letter and it’s fair to say I could just cry and punch myself in the face. I’m so low right now, trying to get used to Sertraline and sleeping tablets, I don’t eat, go out, NOTHING. I feel like this is the final boot in my gut although I’ve brought it on myself !!
And advice or help or anyone who’s been through this ? Am I going to be evicted ? What if anything can I do !?

Thanks so much for Any reply!

@VenusTiger wow that's a great idea/ ideas! I eat relatively good I've just lost my appetite completely 😰 so I've kind of just been eating whatever I can stomach which is usually "bad things" bread, biscuits, cereal and tea mainly.
I hope your husband is feeling as good as he can be and thank you for your understanding, calming words. Ive always wanted to try meditation 🙂 xx

I should have also said, please make sure you are eating something - especially as you are taking medication - and maybe try getting out. Even just a walk around the block is good. You need to look after yourself so you can cope better, and also to be able to care for your son. Wishing you all the best, you have taken the first step just by asking for advice. Hugs.

@Dita73 You're too sweet, thank you, I think the illness makes me hate myself maybe ? It's hard to describe. I'm going to muster up all the energy and strength I have and atleast make a phone call (I'm borderline agoraphobic at the mo) I just want it to be over and to have my security back really. Not even BEGUN to think about Christmas, everything's so heavy and difficult, I just find myself procrastinating and either not sleeping at all or sleeping too much. Xx

@eaglejulesk Thank you, I really am going to try 🙂🙂⭐️ x x

@JenNtonic my DH suffered but it was a long time ago now, thank you - he’s well these days.

Yes, swimming, walking and meditation - it’s really easy tbh, get some music off YouTube and just sit and concentrate on your breathing, you may want to try it sitting against a wall or in bed at first, as you may fall asleep. Imagine a wonderful place in your mind that makes you feel happy and at peace. Relax every muscle one by one, starting from feet, ankles, calves, knees.... etc all the way up to shoulders, neck, jaw, forehead... it’s sometimes easier to contract the muscle before you relax it. Hope tomorrow goes well and you are able to move onwards and upwards OP.

@VenusTiger Wow that sound like bliss 😁 I wonder if it would help anxiety and a racing mind etc. I will look into that, thank you for the instructions 🙂...
Yes, I WILL be taking action tomorrow. I hope so much that I can muster up the strength and mental clarity to simply talk to someone face to face or on the phone.

I'm really happy to hear your husband is fit and well again. ⭐️⭐️🙂🙂🏆xX

Telephone Shelter advice line - they were brilliant in assisting a friend in similar situation. But do it now before any possession order is made.