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Gift to neighbours

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DeepestDarkestRiver · 15/12/2019 09:19

We have new-ish neighbours who moved in across the street a couple of months ago. On Friday, I dropped off a Christmas card at their house, and included a 'belated welcome to the street' message. Yesterday, the man came round and dropped off a box of chocolates and a bottle of wine. I now feel terrible that we didn't give them something more! Blush

DH says that we should now drop round a box of chocolates to theirs, but I say that he is BU - we can't give a card, get a gift, then give a smaller gift in return! Who is BU? Me, or DH? If the consensus is that I should give them the chocs, I will, but we need help adjudicating!

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DeathStare · 15/12/2019 09:21

Invite them round for a drink. Problem solved.

DillyDilly · 15/12/2019 09:23

I wouldn’t, it would just smack of only giving because you received. Maybe they just really appreciated the friendly gesture of the cad.

bluesteakandcheese · 15/12/2019 09:24

Yup, I agree with this!
Invite them over- Christmas is the perfect excuse for a beverage!

countdowntochristmas · 15/12/2019 09:25

Sigh this is the problem with giving a gift you feel obliged to get them something back .
You don't give to receive! They may have done it to be nice neighbours, they may not like the wine and chocolates so passed them on . Honestly don't buy a gift because they did . Invite them round over Christmas for a drink instead .

SkiingIsHeaven · 15/12/2019 09:54

Invite them and open their wine and chocolates to share.

msmith501 · 15/12/2019 09:58

Christmas Day and mince pies. Don't return a gift with a gift - it'll make their nice gesture feel awkward. Relax and don't over think it.

RandomUsernameHere · 15/12/2019 09:59

Agree with others - invite them round for a drink, maybe with other neighbours you are friends with. I'm sure they would really appreciate that.

P1nkHeartLovesCake · 15/12/2019 10:01

I’d invite them over for a Christmas cocktail one night

DeepestDarkestRiver · 15/12/2019 12:01

I love the idea of inviting them round for a drink! And it means that DH is BU and not me! Xmas Grin Thanks for the excellent advice!

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