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to ask if anyone else's kids behaviour has deteriorated this week?

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ilovepenguins79 · 14/12/2019 17:29

I have 2 DC age 5 and 3.

We have done the nativity plays for both and we are all getting excited for Christmas but their behaviour especially this weekend is unbelievable. I have been called ugly by my DC5, smacked in the face by my DC3, had screaming in the supermarket, bad manners "I WANT that for christmas!'.

I have started a star chart but they don't care and will go and take off a star if they are about to be naughty. Nothing distracts them, you turn your back and they are pulling our house apart. We do activities with them and 2 mins later 'I am bored!' 'I am hungry!' literally as we are washing up. I took them to the park this morning to get the ants out their pants and they were deliberately trying to run out in the road ...so they went straight home.

DH and I are at the end of our tether this evening. Any tips or reassurance that its not just ours please! Is this a pre christmas thing that I haven't noticed yet?

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WillyNilly00 · 15/12/2019 12:58

Also not mine but my DN4 was extremely badly behaved at school this week and I sorted out a letter from Santa to say she was on the naughty list which she thought was hilarious! She read it to me as "Blah blah blah naughty list" and tossed it over her shoulder! Xmas Blush

nowayhose · 15/12/2019 13:41

Soft play areas is where I used to let my DC run off the excess energy and excitement. They can still behave like feral kids there, but it's soooo much easier and nicer than a cold park.

I also had a little gizmo, it was a little plastic dome with a flashing red light inside. I used to put it in whatever room they were in and also take it with me outside. I told my DC that it was Santa's secret camera and it was recording them to see if they had been naughty or nice.

I only had to remind them that Santa was watching whenever their behaviour deteriorated, and that would usually get them back in line.

There's also a really cool online Santa site where you can add your kids name, pics and info and whether they had been naughty/ nice this year, then an email is sent showing Santa ''looking up'' your DC and they can see their own picture and info etc A couple of times I did these, saying they were being naughty, and it improved their behaviour immediately ! ( of course I then did this again, a few days later, saying they were good).

My DC were also very into arts/ crafts etc, and we would spend days making/ painting baubles etc ( you get really good stuff online eg make an angel kit or make a bauble kit), as well as making reindeer food (oats with glitter) and cookies etc. Anything to keep them busy really.

Oh, and when they're really grumpy, I used to put on Xmas music quite loud and sing along so they couldn't fight with each other as they were too distracted by my awful singing - they used to crack up at this !- :)

Basically the whole house had glitter and poster paint everywhere, and they knew all the words to every Xmas song, but the DC had a great time and have fond memories of past Xmas's :)

Just try to remember how HUGE Xmas is when you're a kid, and

nowayhose · 15/12/2019 13:50

oops, hit send accidentally !

Was going to add same as other posters, to pick your battles, defo put the clock forwards, don't take it personally and remember that it WILL PASS :) fgrin

Whatdoingmummy · 15/12/2019 13:59

I'm so glad it's not just mine. DD age 9 has been a pita for the last 2 weeks, I have had to repeat everything at least 3 times to her, micro manage her getting dressed etc. This isn't normal at all for her. Wine has helped 😬😩

DeadButDelicious · 15/12/2019 14:08

Yup. And mines not even in nursery yet! Kind of glad it's not just us though Grin

Thatagain · 15/12/2019 14:09

I love story's like this. I do miss those days. (I know I am strange ) from my experience there is not much you can do. What worked for me though was to not raise my voice and when they scream mum just pretend you didn't notice then they start to see what they are doing. Alway's be calm like even when it feels impossible be calm. Talk no raised voices. Star charts don't work some children see right through them. Skip the star charts and always be kind and calm don't let them see you stressed as they sound smart and would use it against you. A child's intuition is amazing and I do miss my dcs being little and yea naughty. Love every second with them even the loud ones. Thank you for posting this you made me remember a few things.

NannaNoodleman · 15/12/2019 15:40

We took our kids to a children's cafe for breakfast this morning. It was full of bollockings! ... above and beyond the usual level of bollockings.

Softskin88 · 15/12/2019 15:57

Yep. Another one here. DD6 has been replaced by a screaming clone.

I suspect it’s also to do with the sweets and cakes that are being handed out at school for the parties, Christmas dinners, plays, events, Santa visit etc. It’s all just too overwhelming for her!

She’s already had a friend telling her that Santa has already visited her house and left presents (is this now a thing?) prompting questions about why he hasn’t been to ours.

We’ve had toddler level tantrums about the stupidest things (choice of clothes or shoes,
for instance) and she’s wetting the bed again.

Glad it’s not just me!

SympatheticSwan · 15/12/2019 16:21

Thank you kind people, this thread has been an eye opener. My sympathies to all of you, but I am secretly glad it's not only mine who are a complete nightmare from mid-December to the early days of January.

stayingaliveisawayoflife · 15/12/2019 17:20

@Softskin88 Some Eastern European countries who have Orthodox Christian followers have Santa visit early and leave sweets in a shoe so it might be related to that?

boatyardblues · 15/12/2019 19:13

In Catalonia Santa comes about a month early and leaves either sweets or a lump of coal in the child’s shoe, depending on behaviour to date. The kids with coal get a month to shape up. In Iceland, they have a similar tradition but with a potato instead of coal.

boatyardblues · 15/12/2019 19:14

Feels like we could do with similar here - a shot across the bows to head off December meltdowns.

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