Grandparents

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Don't give me a load of shit. I'm a serial name changer. But.

I'm 30 and honestly dreading my grandparents passing. I have a DC5. My parents are young. But as I'm so grateful to reach 30 I'm yet to loose anyone close to me. I'm starting to shit myself.

Not really an aibu but where and how else do you express things in real life?

Have you had a wee drink?

Yep 🤷🏻‍♀️

Tbf @IWorkAtTheCheesecakeFactory you get cheesecake everyday. Life's sometimes hard when you sit and think about things.

Sad to say...Life can be shit. Enjoy the good times whilst you can. Everyone loses their people in the end. That's the pain of being alive.

All people die.
It’s really sad when it’s someone from your family circle but somehow you do get through it.

Fairs, kind of regret this post now. The only reason I did it was because everyone I know has lost someone close. I'm just dreading it but I guess that's normal.

I get you but my fear is my parents. I lost my grandparents 10 years ago now but they were in their 90's and as ready as you ever are. It was horrendous losing them but they had lived long happy lives.
But it hit me the other day that my parents are in their 70's now and suddenly seem older. My strong, tough never I'll dad is starting to have a few problems, my mum who is always do busy is starting to get tireder and I'm suddenly terrified too. I only live round the corner from them and although I'm completely self reliant obviously and have a family of my own, I still turn to them for help and advice and still feel like the child at times. It's scary but I guess all you can do is make sure you appreciate them as much as possible now. Ask them to tell you stories of their life, spend time with them etc. I learned more about my grans life in the last week of it than I had ever know and I cherish those memories of our chats in hospital x

@Frazzledmum123 thank you, you are so right

It’s fucking hard to lose someone you love. Every other problem in your life pales into insignificance and you wonder why you even bother living. But you have to go through the motions of living every day, just keep putting one foot in front of the other and eventually you will smile again and start getting a bit more pleasure from life. You’ll never forget the person you’ve loved and lost, but in time you’ll get comfort from the happy memories and be able to talk about them with a smile on your face and life becomes worth living again.

I know where you're coming from op. I am very close to my grandparents on both sides.
My grandad died in 2011 but granny and my grandparents on the other side are still going strong (granny is 88 and still fit as a fiddle although really quite deaf which is a shame).
I think about their passing too and get upset bit I think we are really lucky. Lots of people have lost their grandparents a lot younger than us and we have had a lot more time with ours.
Just see them as much as you can. That's all you can do xx

It's just the natural order of things, I'm afraid. I'd lost both of my parents and three of my grandparents by the time I was 24. The only thing you can do is enjoy the time you have. 🤷

Mine were all gone bar one by the time I hit 20 so I’d say you are lucky to still have them. Stoping worrying about the future and enjoy the time you have with them. I’m minus 4 grandparents and a dad.. when it gets like that then you can worry.

@steff13 I am so sorry to hear that, it must have been incredibly hard for you, I was still very young for my age at 24, I cant even begin to imagine. I hope life has been kind to you since

I lost my grandad last week. My last grandparent. My Nan died earlier this year.

Our family went from 5 generations to 4 last week.

I’m lucky that I’m over 40 and still had grandparents.

My DD had 3 GGPs, she’s coping very well at the age of 9. She still has 3 GPs.

I don’t know if losing someone close is easier when younger. I was in my 20s when my first GP died. But 12, 30 and 35 when my GGPs died.

All I know is it doesn’t hurt less as you get older, but you understand more.

I’m amazed you’ve got to 30 with all your grandparents still alive!

I’m in my 30’s and have no grandparents left and am down one parent.

Focus on making sure the relationship you have now and the choices you make about how to spend your time and what is important to say/do mean you don't have unnecessary regrets when they eventually are gone.

You'll never have no regrets and no matter how long any of us have before an ending there will always be more we wanted to say, but pausing from time to time to be more thoughtful of the decisions we're making can hugely influence how much peace we have later. And how much peace we have now.

Totally know where you're coming from OP. I've never lost anybody and I'm fortunate that my parents are young and in good health, my sibling and partner also. But it scares me that one of us could become seriously ill or be hit by a bus tomorrow. You never know. Things may never be as good again as they are in this moment. I think expecting my first baby is also making me think about this more deeply. I will no longer be part of the youngest generation of my family. My parents will become grandparents and I will be a "proper grown up"!

I’m 35. I have lost three of my grandparents. It was very very sad and I miss them a lot. It was the natural order of things.
I’ve also lost my brother (he died when he was 27, I was 24). That was a tragedy and will affect me greatly for my entire life.