To be upset my bf didn’t even get me a bday card

[Cinnamonbuns29]

Only been with him 6 weeks so wasn’t expecting the world. However things have moved pretty quickly and he has already told me he loves me and wants to find a house closer to where i live (There is about 90 mins between us at the moment) we only see each other once a week as we both have kids and haven’t introduced each other to the kids yet. But we text all day long and phone every day.
Anyway he text me to wish me happy birthday but didn’t send a card. I wasnt expecting a gift but a card at least would have been nice.
Part of me thinks I’m expecting too much for only 6 weeks into a relationship but he’s the one who has been coming across really keen so I’m so confused. I also dont know what to do re Christmas presents now as i have Already got his (mid range aftershave and a couple of token gifts so nothing massive) but i feel Like it will be really awkward if i give them to him and he hasnt got me anything.
He could have sent a card right?

Of course he should have.

I assume this is your ex you are talking about?

fewer people seem to send cards now, he texted you, it's only been 6 weeks. I would hold off on the christmas present, if he gives you a present give him yours, otherwise I wouldn't bother.

Is he waiting until he sees you next?

In my experience he doesn't give a shit so pull back with the strong possibility of getting rid. Actions speak louder than words and if he's setting out his stall so sparsely at the start of your relationship then he doesn't seem at all keen despite what he may say.

I agree with Mr Onions, if he is not dead keen to please now he never will be.

Of course he should have! A card takes minimal effort. Are you sure he definitely didn’t and it’s not just delayed in the post? It’s all a bit slower around Christmas. I’d only been with my partner for 8 days on my birthday when we were first together, he got me a present and a card

6 weeks, and he's told you he loves you & wants to move closer to you?

Jesus. I really despair sometimes - the missed birthday card is the least of your problems, this whole thing sounds ridiculous.

He's been talking about moving house after less than six weeks?

Surely the next time he sees you he'll have something for you? No need to post it if he sees you once a week.

Agree with others that telling you he loves you and promising the earth 6 weeks in is dodgy. Look up love bombing

Red flags on the over keenness for sure but I would probably get a card and present and give them when I saw a new gf/bf rather than post the card.

Well, there you are. He has shown you he is both tight and not thoughtful.

Not a keeper.

I wouldn't have sent a card but I would have text/called and then given card and present when I next saw you

I'd get your money back on the Christmas gifts and treat yourself.

If I was telling someone I loved them, I would get them a present, and I think most other people would

So you've met him 6 times?

I've been with my now husband for 19 birthdays and have not ever received one card from him! However, what I do get from him is loyalty, stability, passion, he's reliable, I trust him, he's always put me first, has never made me feel bad about myself or second best.... I take all that over a card.

However we are all different. Perhaps he has a gift for you when he next sees you?

I'm just more worried about the red flags of saying the I love you so soon into the relationship. Just tread carefully, but I hope it all works out for you 💕

Red flags from both of you.
Him - declaring undying love after 5 minutes
You - being desperate enough to look past that flag and your big issue being not getting a card.

He has told you he loves you and wants to move closer and you've only seen each other about 6 times? Bloody hell.

Maybe he'll give you a card and/ or gift when he sees you next?

Please don't introduce your children yet if you're going to stay with him.