To think that this woman is hypocritical with her 'independent woman' view of herself?

[BohoBlonde]

An acquaintance is forever bleating on on social media about how she is an independent woman and she doesn't rely on anyone and that she supports herself and her daughter.

In reality, she is a single mum who lives with her very rich parents, who pay for her daughters private education and numerous other things. She runs a small hobby-type business which would in no way, shape or form provide the lifestyle she claims to provide for herself and her daughter.

She really prides herself on being said independent woman but AIBU to think she's a total hypocrite and deluded?

Have you gone over her accounts?

Seriously? the world is going to shit. People are worrying about finding the money to buy Christmas dinner. Not to mention the climate crisis.

As I tell my children:
You do you.
Yes- life is unfair..
Yes- other people can be fuckwits.

Concentrate on you and yours and be kind to others.

What does it matter though?

Sounds like she’s expressing that she’s parenting without a partner 🤷‍♀️

Just ignore her posts.

Nothing to be gained from holding a mirror up to her, she is deluding nobody but herself.

Urgh, who cares!? Let her live her wee deluded life. Be kind.

How do you know that she and her daughter aren’t beneficiaries of a trust or something?

Take no notice. Why do you care about this woman on social media?

Yes, she sounds like a hypocrite who is out of touch with the harsh life other people have to face.

I do hate these posts where the OP describes a "friend" in the most negative way and invites everyone to pile on and criticise. And of course, the OP always knows exactly the life of said friend.....

But I do love when people don't rise to the bait!

Don’t follow her if you’re going to judge her negatively. It’s not necessary.

Well, bullshitters aren’t hard to find in life, are they? You’ve singled out one and made a post about her on MN. Can’t see the point personally.

Her parents might have given her a trust so it may be her "salary" and so technically she is supporting herself and her daughter. IDK and you don't either so let her off.

On the face of it, yeah thats irritating.

BUT without knowing the exact ins and outs of her finances i'd be minded not to judge

Why do you care?

@BohoBlonde

Is this a reverse?

Or are you just bitter, and jealous of your 'acquaintance?'

I get it OP. I know someone similar. She comes from a rich family, who bought her a (very large) house as a wedding present and pay for her children to go to private school. She is a SAHM. Her husband has a decent, but not amazing job, but with no mortgage/rent to pay they have a very good lifestyle. It's annoying because her comments are always made with a hint of looking down on anyone whose not managed similar, neatly forgetting how much help she's been given.

You're clearly not friends so just delete her.

Does she mean financially or emotionally, though.

I've got a few 'alpha female/independent women' on my FB. But they go quickly from fuckwit to fuckwit and let them meet their children/move in way too soon. So they certainly aren't emotionally independent.

Likewise I didn't need my DH with me, on the maternity ward/giving birth, or not been able to cope with whatever life has thrown at me, but I have been a SAHM and have temporarily relied on benefits, when Widowed. Personally, I consider myself independent, even when I'm not earning my own money.

I also know working men, who seem to need to be in a relationship, fully independent.

I don’t know whether she’s hypocritical or not. I don’t know the minutiae of her life. Nor do you.

You sound unhappy though.