To want to speak to school about this?

[4cheekymonkey]

Ds2 8 years old. Yesterday he had a bit of an argument with another boy at school over football. Pretty standard break time fuss boys have. Anyway this boy called my son a pussy.
I have 4 boys so I'm all too aware that boys do swear and please tell me if I'm over the top but I just feel hearing the word pussy at this age at school is completely unacceptable??!
There is nothing I can do about it now as my son has heard it but feel pretty cross and honestly want to speak to teacher as I feel if my son was throwing this around, I would want to know it??
Am I being over the top??

Wait til they all start calling each other cunts and wankers in about 2years.

@4cheekymonkey I have three boys ages 8, 10 and 10 plus a stepson of 18. Yes of course they tease each other, but if they teased each other by calling them a ‘pussy’ I would be making sure they did not repeat it.

However, if my 8 year old uttered the word ‘shit’ because they dropped an egg or something I wouldn’t be so bothered. Calling people names, swearing or not, is it on. Using expletives is fine, although I do tell my boys that I might be ok with it but most adults aren’t so they shouldn’t use those words in polite company.

You said he was calling his brother a pussy ‘for the rest of the evening’. That suggests you didn’t impress upon him the severity of what he had said. So be a bit harder and maybe he won’t swear anymore, or at least not in front of you and at his little brother who will tell on him!

*is NOT on.

Ignore and move on op.
My ds went to a naice Catholic secondary where calling someone the N word was a term of endearment!
Did call time on that phrase being used in my house.

I just hate it when people assume boys will/can behave a certain way. It’s normally ways the same people would never allow girls to behave.
I have the same expectations of behaviour whether a child is a boy or a girl.
Sad that in this day and age the old “boys will be boys” bollocks is still trotted out.

I was driving my dd who was 7. Thin road, me coming one way, white van the other. I stopped to let him through. Hot day, windows open. As he passed he shouted “FUCKING CUNT” at us!

I wouldn’t worry about your ds hearing pussy.

You do realise that a pussy in this context comes from pusillanimous which means lacking courage. Nothing to do with women’s genitalia and not a swear word. Some pp’s have pretty sordid minds.

but feel it's reasonable to expect not to hear it at the first place

that's only going to happen if he doesn't go to school and doesn't associate with other kids. Kids hear things. Not much you can do except say it's not acceptable language in your earshot. My son thinks I am hopelessly bourgeois but I hate bad language and am surprised at how acceptable it is in some workplaces, for example.

Its an awful word! Def should not know or be using that word at 8!

He didn’t swear although I’d say pussy is borderline, it’s not great. Your DS should have told a teacher really.

I think it is horrible, but wait until he gets to secondary school my son has been called gay, c*t, n*r, re**d. I have a meeting next term because I think these names are totally overstepping the mark now.

They will hear a lot worst than pussy in the school playground let me tell you.

You do realise that a pussy in this context comes from pusillanimous which means lacking courage. Nothing to do with women’s genitalia and not a swear word. Some pp’s have pretty sordid minds

Don’t think so

YABU to be so pearl clutchy and claim your son has never heard a swear word before or that he doesn't know worse.

YANBU to think swearing is not acceptable in schools and you can inform the teacher. It has nothing to do with how innocent your kid is or how well you chose to hen moving. That's just irrelevant filling to make you feel superior. Just state the fact that there was swearing and the word used. Most schools will find it unacceptable and act accordingly.

However, you need to keep in mind that they can't control it before it happens or what words another child hears/uses .

I agree with pp, in the context it was used it meant he was being a wimp.

I can tell you that In the 8 years of my ds2 life i don't think he has has heard any swear words of the street so I think I can safely say we must have picked wisely when we moved where we are.

Sanctimonious much?!
And the fact still remains that you didn’t stop your son calling your other children ‘pussy’ either. No one is perfect. And that’s ok.

I know my junior school would take this very seriously.

I'm saying that if this was my child I would absolutely want to know and discipline him for it.

And no, I was responding to you saying that you didn’t think it was unreasonable that your son didn’t hear that word in the first place. Not you informing the school of the argument that took place, so that they could be corrected.