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AIBU?

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Only male I talk to regularly is my dh!!?

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Schooldaze1 · 12/12/2019 12:04

I work in an all girls school...we have an all female staff!! I have 2 DD’s...so the only male I talk to on a daily/weekly basis is my DH!!! Anyone else? I find it odd that I have just realised this!!🤣🤣🙈

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Schooldaze1 · 12/12/2019 12:19

Must be the only one 🤣

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formerbabe · 12/12/2019 12:23

I also went to an all girl's school. Had plenty of boyfriends before I met mrformerbabe though!

But yes, now, him and ds are the only men I really speak to regularly. My dad is dead and I don't have brothers.

Occasionally see men on his side of the family but not often and my bil on my side. Will chat to my friends dh if we see them.

I have no male friends and don't want any

littlepaddypaws · 12/12/2019 12:34

same here with dh, although i do have 3 adult sons at home their convo is mainly gaming and work.

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Schooldaze1 · 12/12/2019 12:36

@littlepaddypaws 🤣🤣🤣👍

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GlitchStitch · 12/12/2019 12:38

The only males I speak to regularly are my partner, Dad and son. I'm not interested in chatting with or having male friends.

Ponoka7 · 12/12/2019 12:40

The only man I used to speak to was my DD's next door neighbour. Now she has a BF, but it's very superficial conversations.

BlackCatSleeping · 12/12/2019 12:41

All my coworkers are female. My kids teachers are female. I can’t think of any adult males I really talk to except for my dad now and then.

formerbabe · 12/12/2019 12:41

Oh I see you work in an all girl's school not went to one. I'm a sahm though so no opportunity to speak to men in a work environment either.

AgeShallNotWitherHer · 12/12/2019 12:44

Does this not worry you? Surely it skews your view of the world and men become "alien"? (Maybe not... just wondering)

(I work with men and women, have several very close male friends both gay and straight, have two brothers and a son. I get a different view of the world through their eyes than I do when I spend time with my DDs and sisters and female friends).

honeyloops · 12/12/2019 12:52

I work with a few men (although mostly women) and I have a lot of males friends, so I think I'd notice it if I didn't - but I guess it's what you're used to! Interested to know why Glitch and formerbabe aren't interested in male friends though - seems odd to write off 50% of the population as potential friends?!

BlackCatSleeping · 12/12/2019 13:00

Honestly, I prefer living in a world without men. I was at a work conference the other day and it was my first time to interact with men in a long time. I know not all men are twats but I just couldn’t be arsed with the mansplaining, banter and really quite obnoxious comments.

andpancakesforbreakfast · 12/12/2019 13:14

I mainly work with men, and see an equal amount of mothers/fathers and male and female teachers at school for my kids.

I find it so much easier to work with men to be honest, but have a couple of very good female friends in other teams at work. It's a good balance.

I think as long as you deal with normal "people", regardless of the gender, it doesn't matter so much. I couldn't spend a day with one of the hysterical man-hater born victim drama queen you see on MN! They must be exhausting.

PumpkinP · 12/12/2019 13:32

I don’t think this is odd. I’m single so I don’t really speak to any males. No brothers I have a dad but speak probably a few times a year. I’m not interested in males friends either as all the male friends I had have tried it on in the past. So yeh I don’t really speak to any males (I’m a sahm mum so non through work either)

GooGoo52 · 12/12/2019 13:42

I have a husband, sons, and all my closest friends are men. Can't imagine not having men around/not talking to them.

Sammi38 · 12/12/2019 13:47

I went to an all girls school, have worked in places that tended to have more women than men. I have a husband, 2 sons and a daughter.

I don’t have any male friends, and I’m not going to go out of my way to try and forge any friendships with them either, due to some very un-peasant experiences. If a natural friendship that I felt comfortable with should happen, that’s ok.

But, I don’t feel I’m lacking something because I don’t have male friends.

Rosepetals30 · 12/12/2019 13:49

I can only think of three men I talk to - two are colleagues I don’t see daily and one is husband

My jobs are heavily female orientatied, but not seeing men hasn’t really occurred to be either

Ringdonna · 12/12/2019 13:51

I have more male friends than female, the latter are too hard work.

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Schooldaze1 · 12/12/2019 15:06

Does this not worry you? Surely it skews your view of the world and men become "alien"? (Maybe not... just wondering)

No not at all! I have worked with men before, just not at the moment as it happens.

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ChristmasSpirtsOnTheRocksPleas · 12/12/2019 15:09

Well I’m out numbered in my house. Mother is dead as well so the only women I speak to regularly are a couple of good friends and colleagues.

Whattodoabout · 12/12/2019 15:11

I don’t think this is a big deal really. My DH works in quite a male dominated business so he generally only speaks to men. It’s pretty normal really.

Xiaoxiong · 12/12/2019 15:11

I'm the opposite! Live with all men, work with (almost) all men. But I went to an all girls school so have good female friends, and I have gone out of my way to cultivate new ones (mainly neighbours, colleagues of DH, mothers of my DSs friends and networking contacts).

SunshineAngel · 12/12/2019 15:16

It's just your situation I guess, you just don't come into contact with males. The question is, are you happy with it? I quite like chatting to my male friends sometimes, as it's a refreshing change from female conversation (and I've always been "one of the boys" anyway!) but we all have our own lives and are busy and live apart, so meet up a couple of times a year at the most.

I don't see it a problem that the person I mainly spend my time with is my OH. I don't know how things will change as we've been together longer, but right now we're living together, best friends, and always have plenty to talk about. So I'm enjoying it!

GiveHerHellFromUs · 12/12/2019 15:18

I'm on mat leave and don't have many friends so the only adult I talk to on a regular basis is DP, let alone the only man

coatlessinspokane · 12/12/2019 15:18

I used to be like this. All female hobbies (crafts) and worked in a girls' school so only male was DS. Now work in IT so is full of guys. The stuff they come out with makes me laugh and roll my eyes in equal measure.

I also love being older and unattractive because you can have relationships with guys without worrying about mixed messages.

Grasspigeons · 12/12/2019 15:19

The men in my life im mostly related to. I work in an all female workplace. All of my friends are women although some of thier husbands are friends too so i chat to them but not much.
Its a change as before i had children i worked in a team of men and had lots of male friends from education and work who i would go spend time with but after i had children the dynamic changed.

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