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Saying this to Dp

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Disillusioneddaisy · 12/12/2019 09:05

Dp isn't talking to me and has gone off to work in a huff. Basically everyone in the house has been sick over the last few weeks with this horrible flu like cold. He's finally got it and is probably behaving worse than the dc did when they were ill. So miserable, snappy, and obviously far too ill to do anything - even though when I had it I still had to work, shop, clean and look after the sick dc. Last night he bit my head off over something and I just basically told him to grow up and deal with it like an adult. Now he's not talking to me. Wibu? To add I have been very sympathetic for a good few days before this but now I'm just fed up of the man child.

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Dontdisturbmenow · 12/12/2019 09:14

There's no point in comparing each other when affected by a virus. Some people just get it worse. If my OH gets a nasty cold, he sniffles, blow his noise, have a bit of a headache, but can continue to work and function. When I get it, it goes straight to my sinus, I am totally blocked, the pain is horrendous, I can't sleep and just can't function and it last a lot longer than his colds.

If it was a reverse, people would say that your OH is unreasonable to show so little understanding and sympathy and was a dick. Maybe he really is still too poorly to do much in the house and your undermining of how he feels is the reason he is snapping.


peachesandclean · 12/12/2019 09:16

being ill isn't a competition, people feel different. Give the man a break


Goawayquickly · 12/12/2019 09:18

Feeling unwell is no excuse to bite your head off. Yanbu


GiveHerHellFromUs · 12/12/2019 09:22

He might feel worse than you did but there's no excuse to bite your head off so no, YWNU to tell him to grow up.


Disillusioneddaisy · 12/12/2019 10:06

He does seem to suffer worse than me but I feel like when I have an issue be it health or otherwise I just have to get on with it. When it's him everyone has to know about it and suffer too.

I ought to maybe apologise for my remark but I feel he should apologise for being so bloody grumpy and hard work which he won't.

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GiveHerHellFromUs · 12/12/2019 10:11

Don't apologise. Tell him the truth. You have to get on with it when you're ill with no additional support.
You appreciate he's ill but that doesn't give him the right to speak to you like shit.

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