Over flowers?

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Please help me and DH settle this.

Im currently abroad and DH is back in UK. I had to have my first ever surgery today and I was terrified.
Whenever my MiL and SiLs send me a gift they always sign it by the family name eg: Love The Smiths (they're not actually Smiths, it's just for examples sake)
So today evening I received flowers from "The Smiths". Now I'm upset with DH coz I didn't receive anything from him. He says he's part of the Smiths too so it's the same thing.

AIBU and loopy from the meds? Or is he trying to get away with being a lazy bugger?

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. So basically he is claiming his sister/mother's gift as being from him too. Let me guess.... you're the one who does all the wifework in your relationship? So when you are out of action he claims the wifework of his female relatives.

YANBU
I hope your recovery is swift

YANBU. He must be punished once you're well enough.

Did he put in any money for the flowers, or call the flower place to arrange the delivery? Or is he just claiming it because of his surname?!

That's very sneaky of him, he should be sending his own gift to you. Not piggybacking onto theirs.
No you're not going loopy here, he's trying to pull the wool over your eyes. I hope your surgery went well and that you make a speedy recovery.
For you

So basically he messed up, forgot to get you done flowers too and instead of just admitting that, he's trying to jump on his family flowers 🙄

I'd drop him in it with his mum/sister. Text them a photo of the flowers with the message "Look what DH sent me. I thought they were from you until he told me that they weren't, they were from him"

@zxcbb I'm not sure if he arranged the delivery coz the style of flowers is something my MIL would choose and the message in the card wasn't his style of writing. But I'm not 100% sure

@DeathStare OOOF!

OP I hope you’re feeling better soon, and that your husband gets how shit this is

Haha @DeathStare that's a good idea! Hope you feel better soon, OP

@user1473878824 he's currently not talking to me coz hes saying ImBU but thank you 🙂

Actually I'd send two messages:

Message 1: "MIL/SIL thank you for the flowers. they are lovely." (with photo)
Message 2: "Ooops so sorry. I assumed they were from you. DH has just told me they are in fact from him. He's sulking at me now because I thought they were from you. Must go and apologise"

Let them deal with him!!!

@DeathStare LOL love it hahaha!

Wait! You are in hospital and he’s not talking to you because he’s sulking over flowers? Wow! What an ass.

I hope the surgery went well.

Your H is a dick.

And you must do as deathstar suggests!

Actually @AtrociousCircumstance this same situation happened on my bday when I was travelling (received flowers and cake from the Smiths but nothing from DH coz he thinks he's part of the Smiths too) and I did exactly what @DeathStare suggested but it just seemed to go over everyones heads lol.
((TBF he did have a really lovely present for me when I got back, I just would've really liked a small gesture on the actual day))

Have you explained this to him?

Say that it's lovely that his family sends gifts, but as he is your husband, it would mean more to you if he sent you his own personal gift. Be direct. Don't pussy foot around.

He's sulking because he knows he is wrong. It's doubly wrong that he's sulking.

It only takes a few minutes to send someone flowers online. There really isn't any excuse for him.

My husband has never brought me a gift for surgery. He is there taking care of me, bringing me decent food, helping me when I get home.

But your h clearly has fo
For this sort of thing and that is not ok. When you are better, I would go for clear communication. The day I explained to DH exactly what I wanted for a certain celebration felt like a defeat, but it turned out to be a huge victory. I explained that I don’t care how fancy of a gift I get, what matters to me is that he thought about it. So for me, it’s important that he plans ahead and doesn’t leave it to needing to run to the store while I watch dd. That was all I really needed. And he did it. He plans ahead now. That is what I needed to feel cherished and he did it. Communication really does help.

Don't read anything into the writing. The florist I use, you tell them what to say and they write it.

Now I'm upset with DH coz I didn't receive anything from him.

^Really? Why does it matter?

@Witchend I've used this florist as well, its an online one and whatever you type in the box is printed as is

Ah so you mean what he wrote rather than handwriting. I meant handwriting.

Would you have been upset with him if you hadn't received flowers from other people, or are you upset because they sent flowers and he didn't?

@GiveHerHellFromUs I don't care about other people, I just wanted some sort of gesture from him