To expect a bit more support!

[Rosebel]

Feeling very guilty. Feel like absolute crap, sick, dizzy and headaches, all pregnancy related. Usually I do the cleaning, cooking shopping and washing but I feel so rubbish I can barely manage to work at the moment. A lot of the cooking has fallen to my husband (he doesn't do cleaning) and I feel bad as he works more hours than me. He's dropped a few hints about how lucky I am and how a lot of husband's wouldn't help.
I don't know if he means to make me feel guilty but I do. I want to get back to normal and am pushing myself to do more but then feel even worse.
Am I being unreasonable to expect a bit more support?

Tell DH that if he'd like to take over being pregnant and allow you to crack on with the cooking and cleaning he's more than welcome. Lots of husbands wouldn't help. Those husbands are called arseholes.

He's dropped a few hints about how lucky I am and how a lot of husband's wouldn't help

Oh do tell him to fuck off. Firstly most husbands would pull their weight and not expect a medal. Secondly it's not "helping". He's an adult equal partner and it's is much his responsibility as yours. Thirdly if he isn't happy doing this he can easily be an ex-husband

I want to get back to normal and am pushing myself to do more but then feel even worse

If he loved you this would be the last thing he wanted you to do . If he's pushing for you to do more when you are both pregnant and not fit to be doing more then I think you need to ask big questions about your marriage.

So, when exactly did he run that poll in supportive husbands? Cos I think most decent men would help a wife who needs support whatever the reason That's what marriage means

Tell him to get fuckin used to helping out coz he will need to do a lot more of it when the baby comes.

He sounds awful. Really, a complete knob.

You do realise that it’s not normal or ok to be treated like that by someone who is supposed to love and support you? All men are not like this.

He's not an awful person but he is old fashioned and lazy. I have told him when the baby comes he'll have to step up. He said he will but his attitude does worry me a bit.