To let someone think i followed them when i didnt

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It's a driving one. Kind of.
Someone pulled out on me at a mini roundabout (i'd already set off turning, it was my right of way and they carried on speeding through it like it was a straight road). I've never beeped my car horn in my life but this guys headlight was touching mine, it was that close that i beeped out of shock when i put the brakes on.

Anyway he shot off first (probably out of embarrassment) and then i did too... but we were going in the exact same direction. Every time he indicated to go down a road it was the one i needed to go down and i realised it must've looked like i was following him.

Turns out we were going to exactly the same place, when we got there he saw me, spun around in the car park and left. I parked up. I assume he thought i was going to get out and yell at him.

I wasn't angry, the beep was out of shock and these things happen.

I could've turned off and gone somewhere else instead but i didn't want to change what i was doing when none of it was my fault. WIBU to carry on driving to the same destination?

If he hadn't pulled out on me (or even let me continue my turn and leave first) then i would've still drove to the exact same place that i did except he would've been behind me and definitely not thought i'd angrily chased him down. I considered changing my destination but i'm sick of doing things for other people's benefit as i'm a bit of a pushover. But now i'm worried about how it all came across.

See, that's wjhen you ponder the reality of Karma

YANBU By just going about you daily business but if I were in that situation I would have probably thought you were following me too.

Of course YANBU to carry on with your original plans.

Although yes it probably did look like you were following him.

YANBU that will teach him for next time it's pure karma and slightly funny that happened you did nothing wrong OP

Excellent OP. Hopefully it will make him think twice about dickish driving in future

And of course YANBU.

Well that was a waste of 3 minutes of my life reading that. 'I followed someone, then he left the car park'

Whenever this happens to me I often WANT to be going in the same direction to make them feel like they're being followed! Hopefully it will have taught them a lesson OP!

erm, just forget about it. nothing happened.

My granny once had a car following her. She'd done a mis-turn and was turning round and saw this car do the same.
She turned into the small village, he went too, she turned down the road, he followed. She went down the narrow country lane and he went there too. She drew up outside her house, and he pulled in behind her.
She sat and thought, and decided if he was going to attack her, he would anyway and got out.
So did he. He was a young chap covered in tattoos.

Then he called across. "Sorry to bother you, ma-am, but this fell off the roof of your car."
Her handbag. He'd followed her 8 miles to give it back.
I think he stayed for dinner!

Witchend Aww that's a lovely story! I love it when people are unexpectedly nice

Haha, Witchend, you’ve saved the thread. What a lovely chap.

Witchend - so beautiful, really love that!

I think you're attributing female experience to a male - it's women who are routinely intimidated by men following them.

Don't worry about it. Even if he was the rare driver who actually felt any remorse about driving like a dick (and pulling out on you in the first place makes it sound unlikely to me), unless you have Valkyrie-like proportions, I doubt he was in any way scared of you - at most, he'd be thinking 'I'll get my car keyed up if I park in here', not that you were any threat to him.

YABU to care about what the other driver thought.

However, it might have been sensible to park in the same place, because you never know how he OR SHE could become violent with road rage. It's not unheard of, so I would have been cautious.

*NOT to park in the same place

Yabu for worrying about this.

What else could you have done? Turned round and gone home? That would have been ridiculous. And you didn't even realise you were going to the same place until you got there, so at what point do you think you should have abandoned your plans?