To feel like I’m being put in my box

[judithandholofernes]

For context; DH has a very large family who are as close as a large family can be (more than 10 siblings) I keep in touch with parents and siblings by phone and text messages, DH updates by SM.
Tonight I was texting DH DS re an event that we were attending and she replied with a message stating that DFIL had been in hospital that day. I passed the message to DH.
About an hour later I texted to see how DFIL was feeling and got a response that said if DH wants to know how DFIL is doing that he can check the family group messages.

I’m upset. It’s clear I’m not part of the family group messages.
I keep in contact with DFIlL more than DH does.
DSIL could have Just told me how DFIL dad doing

AIBU?

Sounds like a dig at your husband - why hasn't he been in touch with anyone to see how his own father is doing? As for not being part of the family whatsapp group - are any of the other spouses in the family group?

Sounds like it’s a dig at your DH

She was very rude not to give you an update.

Bypass her and go to MIL or another sibling.

I wouldn’t even respond to her