to cook dinner early so I can portion some off for my lunch tomorrow?

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DP is here tonight. When I cook, no matter how much I cook, and we finish eating he will have whatever is left as seconds. He does ask me first and it's partly my fault as I feel like it would be selfish of me to say no so I do say yes but it's a bit irritating (not to mention expensive!).

I always give him a more than generous portion in first place before anyone accuses me of underfeeding him ☺️.

Tonight I'm making a curry with three large chicken breasts. I would give him a large portion in first place, I would have less with enough left for my lunch at work tomorrow.

If I left it in the pan I'm certain he'd have seconds. If I portion it off in advance and stick in fridge he won't have the chance.

Am I being a horrible grinch?

He is a greedy piggy - hide your lunch away - stop him getting fat as butter.

I don't get it. Why can't you just say 'there aren't any seconds; I made enough for tonight and for my lunch.'?

Just portion out three servings, putting one in Tupperware and fridge it.

He's very greedy with his free meals. Does he buy and cook for you? Or are we talking cocklodger territory here?

I don't get it. Why can't you just say 'there aren't any seconds; I made enough for tonight and for my lunch.'?

OP is already giving him Penis Portions, so he thinks he's entitled to any leftovers too.

It's not sexy, is it? Feeling like I have to hide food would have me reaching for my sensible nightie (with accompanying bloomers!).

Has he always been this greedy?

I wouldn't encourage it by doing anything differently.

Plate his up, plate yours up, stick the rest in your lunchbox.

Job done.

@speakout we have curry days! Where we all make something and share it out. Small kitchen but nobody eats in there as no room so smells not too much of an issue. The only problem is when someone is eating from the chip shop, it makes my sandwich very dull
No rules on fish/eggs etc either apart from the odd comment that it "smells like I'm inside a whale"

I always give him a more than generous portion in first place before anyone accuses me of underfeeding him

Wow...you must be new.

I've clicked yabu because you if he's comfortable enough to get up and help himself to seconds (reads like you don't live together) then you should be able to say that he can't eat your lunch.

He sounds really greedy - that would be a massive turn-off for me!

We can eat anything at work apart from strong-smelling fish. Although one colleague ate a boiled egg every morning; I couldn't see her behind her monitor and just thought she was letting loads of eggy farts out.

I just realized that while you wrote this person is your partner, he is not someone you live with. This is a case where the relationship matters. I was picturing you telling someone who is basically a spouse that you are going to limit his dinner. That is not acceptable unless you have no choice but to limit portions due to abject poverty.

As a guest in your home, my answer changes. Portion out your lunch as you serve things up.

If I ask my dh to leave enough for my lunch, he always, f-ing ALWAYS leaves just not quite enough. That one extra spoonful he takes leaving a mean-size lunch portion, fit for a small child who ate crisps earlier at granny’s, or a fussy Pomeranian. Neither of which I am. So I always pack up my left-over lunch before serving dinner.

Some people are just goldfish and will keep eating as long as the food is there. My father is like this too. Definitely put aside your lunch along with serving it up, that's what my mother does.

I would also serve you both the same amount so the extra you give him is still in the pot, then he can have seconds without going into your lunch portion.

Someone above has said to cook more, I think they have missed the point you made about it being expensive and you're already cooking a large amount.