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To not take Dd to the doctors..

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Foxton20 · 10/12/2019 16:14

Dd12 has been complaining of a sore shoulder for the past few days. She refuses to take paracetamol and demands I take her to the doctors.

She says she can’t carry her bag etc.

I say she’s putting it on to get a day off school and/or out of pe.

Aibu to not take her doctors?

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Am I being unreasonable?


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19lottie82 · 10/12/2019 16:19

I wouldn’t accuse her of lying BUT I do think you need to use a bit of common sense here. How bad is the pain? What kind of pain is it? Does she know what caused it?

Is the shoulder sore enough to warrant a visit to the doctors? If she’s just pulled a muscle then, no. Personally I’d keep an eye on it, and if it’s not getting any better then contemplate the doctors in a few days.


19lottie82 · 10/12/2019 16:20

Does she have form for faking to get out of school / Pe?


foamrolling · 10/12/2019 16:21

If she's putting it on why would she want to go to the doctors and be found out? Is she using that arm as normal?


Foxton20 · 10/12/2019 16:21

No she doesn’t tbh! She said it’s from the shoulder to her elbow. Doesn’t hurt to touch but to move.

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HanginWithMyGnomies · 10/12/2019 16:21

It could be the strain from the heavy bags they have to carry? Do they have lockers? Make an after school appointment, I don’t see the issue with taking her to be honest.


Foxton20 · 10/12/2019 16:22

I think she hopes the doctor says it’s true and says she doesn’t have to go school.

Why won’t she take calpol if it hurts?

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PurpleDaisies · 10/12/2019 16:22

Just take her. If there’s no problem, that’s ammunition for getting her to do PE.


CherryPavlova · 10/12/2019 16:24

Book her an appointment for after school


BeatriceTheBeast · 10/12/2019 16:25

Right, this may sound a bit weird, but I get this when I wear an ill fitting bra! Could it be she needs one or a new one? It actually really hurts, but obviously I don't go to gps for it.

If she is putting it on to get out of school and she normally doesn't do that, I would wonder why that is. Is there a test in a subject she hates or is something else going on?


PlanDeRaccordement · 10/12/2019 16:25

YABU take her to the doctors.
No child faking an injury wants to go to a doctor.


Lonecatwithkitten · 10/12/2019 16:25

My mantra is if you take pain killers regular and are still in pain then I will take you to the doctors.


foamrolling · 10/12/2019 16:25

It's a weird conclusion for you to jump to when she has no form for trying to get out of school and an achey shoulder is highly unlikely to result in a day off anyway. As to why she won't have calpol, why does she say she doesn't want it? Would she put ice or heat on it instead?


BeatriceTheBeast · 10/12/2019 16:26

Oh sorry! Not getting out of school, just PE. Why does she want out of PE?


Soubriquet · 10/12/2019 16:27

It’s the not wanting to take painkillers that’s making me Confused


BlueGingerale · 10/12/2019 16:29

I wouldn’t go to the Dr for a sore shoulder. I’d go to an osteopath.


Selfsettling3 · 10/12/2019 16:30

What kind of bag does she have? An ill fitting one that she carries over that shoulder or a well fitting back pack.


BlaueLagune · 10/12/2019 16:30

Make the appointment. You'll be lucky to get one before Christmas anyway and then she'll be better in January and you can cancel it again.

I agree an osteopath or a sports massage might be better, but of course costs.


Equanimitas · 10/12/2019 16:31

Is she using that arm at all, and if so does it look as if she's in pain?


Molly2016 · 10/12/2019 16:44

Better to take her to be proved right then not take her and be proved wrong.


BusterGonad · 10/12/2019 16:46

This happened with my son (10yo),complaining he was ill on the way to school one day, I called his bluff by taking him to the school doctor and he had low blood pressure and needed time off with plenty of fluids!

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