Christmas presents for NC family

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Am I being unreasonable?
A few months ago myself and DH fell out with SIL because she isn’t worth the stress. We’ve had NC with her since. It was DCs birthday a few weeks ago and she didn’t bother with him at all not even a happy birthday message which upset him a great deal as he loves her and didn’t understand why she didn’t bother.
She’s sending her eldest child over on Boxing Day and I’m wondering if I should get her and her sisters presents or not? We’re rather skint and we don’t see nieces unless it’s around their birthday or Christmas (personally I feel she sends the kids to get their presents basically.) but I don’t know if that’d be to harsh? I love my nieces but I’m still very hurt by SILs actions towards my children and feel like giving them presents is saying it’s okay to treat my kids like crap. AIBU?

It’s not the children’s fault and if you love them get them something it can be a small token

Sending them to you? Tell her you're not going to host them, and they can't come.

You said your child was hurt so why do you want to hurt her kids? Give them presents but not your SIL (and what does your husband think? Surely his opinion is more pertinent).

DP and his brother have been NC for over a year now. I know we will be seeing his brother's children on boxing day and despite knowing that nothing will be bought for our DC, I can't bring myself to exclude children so won't stoop to his level. I've spent the same as I have on his other nieces and nephews. The only difference, because of the nature of the falling out, is that I've signed the gift tag as from our DC

I don’t want to hurt her kids. I just don’t want to buy them presents and SIL to think it’s okay to carry on treating my kids badly as it doesn’t effect her if that makes sense. She has a very deluded way of thinking and only thinks about things if she’s effected. I will buy them a small token gift each. DH doesn’t have an opinion on it as he’s done with SIL she stole money from our children and tried to blame us for it so it’s an awkward situation.