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To not give a gift

31 replies

Symbollove · 10/12/2019 11:51

Would it be unreasonable for me not to gift durimg xmas festive those who I've already gifted?
My sister had a baby in September, I live far, visited them and gave gifts to sister, new baby and her other child too. Was expensive. I could afford it so that's not the point. Then it was my Dsis older child birthday in October, I sent a little gift as well as a little something for my Dsis.
I will be seeing all my family over the Xmas holidays, it's also that dsis birthday this month. I have an exclusive liz Earle discount so was able to get a gift set for £10, i ordered with the intention it is for Dsis.
This month due to having other financial priorities, would it be unreasonable not to gift them anything as I feel I have given them quite alot in the last 3 months.

Tight budget and I need to priotise those of whom I haven't gifted anything to.

But I feel like I will feel awful if she gives my children or I any gifts, naturally will feel like I have to gift bavk.
What should I do, would appreciate kind feedback

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Symbollove · 10/12/2019 12:28

@Bluetrews25
Yes I see what you are saying. I don't know why i go to such extremes. Perhaps now I will gift wisely so I don't have this issue again.

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CakeandCustard28 · 10/12/2019 12:33

Why not them get something small each? Like a book? You don’t have to spend massive amounts. Or explain to them you won’t be giving gifts this year due to your circumstances and you won’t be expecting a gift from them either.

Bluerussian · 10/12/2019 12:41

I think it would be a bit mean not to give Christmas or birthday presents, surely doesn't have to be anything too expensive and you'll be seeing them over Christmas. It's fun buying and wrapping presents too or you could give money or vouchers. You've said you can afford it, would be different if you couldn't.

(Lots of 'gifting' and 'gifted' here rather than giving, gave or given. I wonder how we moved into that way of speaking, it isn't grammatically incorrect at all but seems alien. More prevalent on MN than in real life.)

BalsamicVin · 10/12/2019 17:09

What a pointless thread if nobody gives any xmas presents ConfusedGrin

Runnerduck34 · 10/12/2019 21:35

Yabu, as others have said those were gifts for different occasions , have a budget for Christmas and divide it accordingly to number of people depending on how close they are to you, whetheryou bought them a birthday present last month should have no relevance .

JaJoJe · 16/12/2019 12:52

I'm sorry but as the mother of a Xmas period child saying 'you are not getting a Xmas gift because you birthday is in/close to December' is so heartless and rude.

People with late in the year birthdays get screwed enough as it is and birthdays are not interchangeable with Xmas.

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