Nothing in common with schoolfriends anymore AIBU?

[GlitterShine31]

I went out with some old school friends at the weekend. We haven’t been able to meet for a few months cos of childcare arrangements.

I went out with them. Anyway, nothing has changed for them from 15 years ago. Still exactly the same people. I just found them dull and really boring with nothing interesting to say. All they are interested in is going out and getting p*ssed up town. They have the same old problems. Before we went out they spent 2 hours moaning about the same problems/exs. Then they dragged me in some awful rough bar we went in years ago which I can’t stand now. I just think we are very different people now. I am trying to progress in my career, like travelling, reading. I booked a holiday and brought it up and they said they couldn’t even think about holidays at the moment as had too many problems to deal with and cut me off.

I have other friends who talk about interesting stuff. I just found myself extremely bored and I am not interested in seeing them again after 20 years of friendship! I couldn’t care less if I see them again. I am shocked I am feeling this way but I just think if we met now I wouldn't be friends with them. I don’t know how to end the friendships.

Has anyone else experienced this? What did you do?

They might have been bored by you too. It happens and people drift. I think the people that stay naturally become closer and you become a bit of an outsider but also by leaving, you change. One of the biggest differences can be income differences and as much as they shouldn’t change things, it does.

I know how you feel, I caught up with some old school friends and I felt like our lives are drifting apart. We usually get each other Xmas presents and I have no idea what to get them! I’ve only seen them twice this year and I felt like I had to carry all the conversations.
It’s really sad, I’ve know them for 20 years and it feels like we have nothing in common.

I have 2 friends from school and 1 friend from university I still see. If I saw the others at an event I would be glad to see them but they are not part of my life.

There is nothing wrong with your old friends, they are just not in the same place as you.
If you get nothing out of seeing them, just take a step back and find more people who are more in tune with you.

We have lived in several different countries and whilst I am there I make great friends. When we move again, I will only stay in regular contact with 1 or 2 and that is absolutely fine.

Yes they could have been bored by me but I couldn't get a word in as they were really complaining about the same problems they had years ago.

We just have absolutely nothing in common. I come away thinking I am going to distance myself.

YANBU- it's ok to feel like that. People drift, move on. Who knows one day you may have a nostalgic moment, they may come to mind and bring a smile to your face. Memories are funny things... you may not remember that holiday in years to come but the bar you went to with these friends! Life is short surround yourself with ppl you love