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Struggling in new job, it's painful
Dawny65 · 10/12/2019 05:17
I started a new job a couple of months ago and am struggling. I've inherited a large backlog so I have to keep my head down & plough through. I sit apart from everyone else, who have been working together for over 20 years. As nice & pleasant as they are I'm struggling to get involved in chat, especially as they're talking about people & places I do not know. They are friendly & supportive on a professional basis but do not really seem interested in integrating me on a more personal level. I don't know if it's me overthinking but I sensed an awkward atmosphere yesterday. I'm normally bubbly & have a laugh at work, but here I feel like I'm withdrawing further into my shell & it is denting my confidence a lot.
It is a temp job but should eventually go to perm. This week I have had interest from another company closer to home & £3,000 more salary per year; but will the same thing happen again?
I had to go out of the office to take a phone call from the new company, which looks suspicious in itself, although a quick phone call is allowed. If I suddenly ask for time off they'll probably guess I'm going for an interview. This could make the atmosphere even more awkward, which will not be good if I don't get the new job.
Trouble is I like this job & the staff are nice enough but I just don't feel like I've clicked.
Do I sit it out, of go for the other job as the prospects are good; and do I go for it in secret or be honest & open about it?
vixb1 · 10/12/2019 05:53
If it's £3k more and closer to home you'd be mad not to go for it. I'd do so in secret if you can.
Hard to say over such a short period of time in your current role whether it's bad chemistry or you just need some more time there. Either way I wouldn't be worrying so early on. If you don't get the other job, you know you need to settle into this one and with time that's likely to happen if you make it clear you're open to it with your colleagues.
I'd give it 12 month and if it's still not clicking get out of there. :-)
Hellofromtheotherside2020 · 10/12/2019 06:10
I'd go for the interview. Sometimes we just don't click with people. Nothing wrong with that and life is too short to be unhappy. Plus the 3K extra and shorter commute are perks!
Sounds like you have nothing to lose. And so sorry to hear you haven't been completely happy in your latest role 
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