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Would I be unreasonable to do this?

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User1010101091010 · 09/12/2019 13:16

2 weeks ago I had a new sofa delivered. I asked my mum’s DP if he would take our old sofas away, to which he said yes.
He said when collecting them that he may give them so his sister, if not they will go to the tip.

I got a message off him saying that he had left them in a car park near where his dad works and the council were cutting it up (to try and see who owns it) and took it away before they could go and get it. He said he hasn’t had time to take it to the tip.
He’s told me to say, if asked that scrap men offered to take it away for £20.

I put the sofas on fb for free a few days prior but deleted it as no one seemed interested.

I’m really worried that the council will come knocking on my door and I’m so angry that he had the cheek to fly tip my stuff as I had trusted him.

What doesn’t add up is if they saw the council cutting it up, why didn’t he go to them straight away?

Would I be unreasonable to ring the council and explain the situation?
I really don’t want to start a family feud but if it comes back to me, I’m going to get fined as I have a duty of care.

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NameChangedForTheDay · 10/12/2019 00:49

How odd! I wouldn't contact the council in your shoes. On the basis of if they don't trace it back to you, then your mum's DP's crappy actions won't land at your doorstep at all. Don't give them the confession / ammo to take you to court / fine you.

If they do get in contact, I'm not sure on what to say as I think you're still liable for fly tipping by proxy, so a scrap man excuse wouldn't wash it.

Your mum's DP is inconsiderate and I'd suggest you don't ask him for such favours in the future.

Hope it works out.

KellyHall · 10/12/2019 00:52

Don't contact the council, it's rarely wise to admit to anything like this. I doubt they'll track you down.

It was a dick thing for him to do but it's done now and it's not the end of the world.

OnlyLittleMissOrganised · 10/12/2019 01:40

I would say dont contact the council but keep any messages your mums partner sends to you about it. That way if the council do turn up you have evidence he was the one that fly tipped and not you. Therefore he would be fined.

Hellofromtheotherside2020 · 10/12/2019 01:56

So he flytippped on your behalf! So naughty. Definitely keep any messages between you both, just in case the council do trace you as the original owner. What does your mum say about all this?

User1010101091010 · 10/12/2019 07:22

Thanks I won’t say anything.
I definitely will not be asking for a favour again.

My mum hasn’t said anything, I don’t know if she knows.

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