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Irritated with OH

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Tytre · 09/12/2019 00:12

I’ve been snappy and moody . I’ve had a few spells of poor health . Very pregnant .

Keep moaning at OH . Getting annoyed . He can and has always been bad at some things but his good most certainly outweighs his bad .

Always feeling irritated at him but I know it must be me . Eg annoyed at his long hours at work ! Of course I’m being unreasonable but just want to know if everyone else is / has been as snappy as me when pregnant .

Eg today had a go at him and his poor shopping skills because we had run out of milk . He does all the shopping , so I know it’s me being unreasonable.

Just wish I could stop being a stroppy cow .

Any tips on managing my mood swings ?

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TLBftm · 09/12/2019 00:19

I wasn’t too bad with being snappy while pregnant (mainly crying at every single thing on tv) but I did have my moments. I remember saying to DP one day ‘I’m sorry if I snap at you, you know I don’t mean it, it’s just hard sometimes being this pregnant and I spend most of my life around you hence you’re the one I have around to take things out on etc, but please ignore me’ 😂 he was sympathetic and knew I didn’t mean it and assured me it was fine. 11 month into mum life all is still well. You sound like you’re nearing the end, so good luck and congrats! Keep going :)

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Tytre · 09/12/2019 00:32

Maybe it’s this bit that’s getting me in a mood . Awaiting labour and wondering how crap its going to be

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Marriedwithchildren5 · 09/12/2019 00:59

Surely if your dh is so great he'd cut you a break? Jeez if you cant moan at the man who's child you are growing, who can you moan at??

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Tytre · 09/12/2019 02:20

Ur right .

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Hellofromtheotherside2020 · 09/12/2019 02:42

I'm also very pregnant, but during this pregnancy I'm very chill. Having said that, yesterday when it was 42°C and my older children and husband just sat around while I was doing the housework, I did get snappy. Cue all of them rushing around doing things they'd never done before jusy to avoid my wrath 😂

I truly believe that when pregnant you seem to take on your new baby's personality! This is such a strange claim for me to make, but it's just too coincidental. My first son, I was so laid back, a little lazy, full of kindness and non argumentative. That's his personality. When pregnant with my daughter I had a short temper, was full of road rage and would argue with anyone and everyone. That's her personality (she's a lovely teenager now so it's all good!). Youngest son, I was loving and affectionate for the first time in my life. Again, totally laid back and relaxed but there'd come a point where I'd get annoyed and have a temper. That's his personality down to a tee.
This pregnancy I've been really worried about things I've never worried about before (I genuinely never worry about anything)! So I think this baby will be a little worrier and very lazy, as I've been SO lazy this pregnancy!

But no, you're not unreasonable, just have an word with him and let him know your hormones are all over the place, you appreciate him and you don't mean to be mean. Good luck

TLBftm · 09/12/2019 11:32

Don’t worry about your labour. It’s not something you can really control. Mine was a beautiful labour and I’d do it everyday if I could, so relax, you might have a fantastic experience :)

TurtleCavalryIsSeriousShit · 09/12/2019 11:38

I was like this during both my pregnancies. We always joke that we will not survive another pregnancy. Even my best friend told me that I was a complete bitch during my second (she wasn't around during the 1st). I did warn her though.

I got sterilised after the second, as I have a good man and he really didn't deserve my wrath whilst pregnant. I was annoyed at table/butter knives ffs! Couldn't see the point in them and no-one laid the table with a table knife for me until after baby was born Blush.

Don't feel too bad.

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Tytre · 10/12/2019 23:14

Gosh

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Tytre · 10/12/2019 23:15

I’m bloody stressed about labour

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Branster · 10/12/2019 23:31

Maybe you’ll be really chilled when you go through the menopause to compensate for your current irritability?

TLBftm · 11/12/2019 17:57

What exactly is it about labour you’re stressed about?

WorraLiberty · 11/12/2019 18:01

Surely if your dh is so great he'd cut you a break? Jeez if you cant moan at the man who's child you are growing, who can you moan at??

The OP hasn't even mentioned how her DH is coping with her moods. How do you know he hasn't 'cut her a break'? Confused

PlanDeRaccordement · 11/12/2019 18:06

Pregnancy should not cause you to be awful to your partner often. Yes, being grumpy and snapping now and then is normal. But, if your moods are out of control now, be aware of PND and PP risks.

MashedSpud · 11/12/2019 18:30

Keep snapping at him and one day you’ll be posting about how he’s left you.

Being pregnant doesn’t excuse you being a bitch to people.

Marriedwithchildren5 · 14/12/2019 01:34

Being pregnant doesn’t excuse you being a bitch to people.

Her Dh. Not just people. I hate being pregnant. I'm snappy and irritable. The only person I can moan at is dh.

Rosspoldarkssaddle · 14/12/2019 02:12

First pregnancy, I was sane
Second pregnancy I was a certified axe murderer.
Hormones heh?!

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