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To want a cleaner for Christmas?

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Bobbiepin · 08/12/2019 19:21

DH has been asking what I want for Christmas and I genuinely don't want anything. Some new clothes would be nice but I pick up the odd thing here and there so not really a big deal.

What I really want is a clean house, and not to have to do it myself. I really struggle keeping on top of everything, even with TOMM. We both work and have a young DD - on the go from 6am to 7pm and I don't want to spend the remaining 2-3 hours before bed cleaning.

Dh thinks we just need to do more and don't need a cleaner (but is also sitting in front of the TV now). AIBU?

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Am I being unreasonable?


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Heymummee · 08/12/2019 19:24

It’s not unreasonable to want a clean house, but you are unreasonable to want it as a Christmas present.
How much does he do around the house? You accepting a cleaner as a present is essentially you saying the cleaning is entirely your responsibility. A cleaner is a household and shared cost (albeit a luxury one) not a gift IMO.


mrsbyers · 08/12/2019 19:24

Make a list of chores for both of you then - if he doesn’t keep his side of the deal then you get a cleaner. I was in exactly the same situation and sick of nagging husband to do more - we have cleaner two hours a week and both so much happier


SpicyRibs · 08/12/2019 19:30

A cleaner is for life not just wait.


ThisIsSunrise · 08/12/2019 19:42

See if you can get a one off blitz now for Christmas and get him to pull his finger out as well as a cleaner afterwards.


Bobbiepin · 08/12/2019 19:43

He does most of the cooking and will tidy the kitchen after, but doesn't clean or wipe the surfaces down. He'll put a wash on and hang it up but not put my clothes away. When I started TOMM I asked him to contribute to it and help me out but he said he did enough picking up after me (I am notorious for leaving things where they don't belong).

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