To ask if I'm being harrassed and what can I do?
justaquestion55 · 08/12/2019 16:55
NC for this one.
I grew up in one of your average 'Stately Homes' households... Seemingly perfect to the outsider, spoiled with everything a child could wish for, the works. On the inside, I was emotionally abused on a daily basis - screamed at, subject to adult tantrums, ignored for days, insulted, or used as my mother's personal therapist. A few questionably creepy comments from mum thrown in for good measure. Emotionally absent father and no other relatives would talk to us (as a child I used to wonder why... I don't anymore).
Naturally this led to numerous mental health issues, including (thus far) three signed-off-work-for-months breakdowns and two suicide attempts. Despite that, I've managed to hold down a job and support myself financially.
I snapped three years ago after a particularly heinous comment. No contact ever since. Still, that doesn't stop my mother from harrassing me whenever she can. It's now escalated to her sending messages to my friends and partner's family on Facebook and Instagram. She even (somehow) found out my boss's name and messaged him, too. I live alone and I'm petrified of her turning up at my workplace or house.
What can I do in this situation?? Would a restraining order be an option? I just don't want to ever have to face the woman again and I know you have to see the person in court to get a restraining order... :(
Aquamarine1029 · 08/12/2019 17:00
In your position, I would be going straight to the police and look into getting a non-molestation order. Your mother harassing you is awful enough, but going after your friends and employer is just unhinged. You can't live like this. I'm so sorry, this is absolutely terrible.
Oliversmumsarmy · 08/12/2019 17:04
I moved hundreds of miles away. New job. New name. That was before SM but I do not do SM even now.
My mother reported me missing. Had to tell them I was fine but absolutely No Contact.
Unless you change your life completely then there is always the chance of your mother turning up on your doorstep
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