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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To want sex

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Nunoftheother · 08/12/2019 13:36

But not with a married man, or with a FWB who's crap in bed, or with a hook-up, or with a man who pretends to want a relationship in order to inveigle himself into my bed.

However, these seem to be the only offers, and have been for several years. Can't seem to find a decent man and although I'm ostensibly open to something meaningful, I'm very wary of getting hurt again as I've had some really shit experiences. It's somewhat academic anyway, as I haven't had a date for aeons.

Any advice?

(Regular poster, but have name changed.)

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Nunoftheother · 08/12/2019 13:37

Should probably have said, as I guess it's relevant, I'm in my mid-40s.

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Andysbestadventure · 08/12/2019 13:44

You're looking for a Unicorn, basically.

Try fabswingers.com, but you're likely to find most of the men there are also married and lying about it.

PicsInRed · 08/12/2019 13:45

Perhaps you are now wise enough to see what was always there.

There are very, very many rubbish relationships out there.

CAG12 · 08/12/2019 13:47

So to clarify, do you just want sex or do you want a relationship? I cant make it out from your post

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Nunoftheother · 08/12/2019 13:55

You're looking for a Unicorn, basically.

Haha!

No, I'm looking for a unicorn who's also the correct sex, sexual orientation, age, education and socio-economic group.

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needsomehelptoday · 08/12/2019 13:57

So to clarify, do you just want sex or do you want a relationship? I cant make it out from your post

This

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Nunoftheother · 08/12/2019 14:02

So to clarify, do you just want sex or do you want a relationship? I cant make it out from your post.

I'd like a relationship, but as that's proving elusive I'd prefer not to also be celibate.

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MrsMaiselsMuff · 08/12/2019 14:08

FWB who is not crap in bed? I used to have one who was great in bed, we got on so well, but he'd do my head in as a partner.

I met him through his brother if that helps. Any friends with single brothers?

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Nunoftheother · 08/12/2019 14:17

I met him through his brother if that helps. Any friends with single brothers?

Not that I know of, but that is a good idea.

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1950swallpaper · 08/12/2019 14:19

I'm looking for the same answer! TBH I think that loving, sexually compatible, personality compatible relationships are rare. Most people are unhappy with what they have single or not.

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Nunoftheother · 08/12/2019 22:44

@1950swallpaper Yes, you're probably right...

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