To think mumsnet has the most judgmental mothers than any forum

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The irony is, what’s supposed to be a forum for support is actually delivering, in most cases, the complete opposite. I love mumsnet, but I gotta be honest, It could get vile pretty quickly. There I said it... AIBU to think so?

I have found really sensible advice on here. Also some batshit advice...

Batshit is a great word
Yes def Some batshit advice on mn
Mn is only place were did you mean to be so rude? is a withering put down that pole axes any adversary
I’ve also seen really detailed,accurate advice
As with anything to do with other people it has its pro/cons

Do you think anyone ever goes on Kiwifarms and tells them to be nice?

I don’t know what kiwifarms is,are they known for being fierce

I don’t know. I was a wreck when I was on BC. Lots of very strong opinions about how to do the first 12 months. At least here everyone doesn’t just agree with everyone else.

Definitely agree !! I am a new member and posted the other day and the amount of cheeky comments were unreal.

MNHQ we need a whining board! In the meantime if you don't like it, press the X in the top right hand corner.

So monotonous - there's at least one thread like this a week.

HTH

There are a lot of people on MN who are not mothers.

Is it everyone you are having a go at, or just the mums?

Mn we need cheerleaders board for all the sycophants who can’t tolerate perceived criticism
HTH

It does have more judgmental mothers but it's also the biggest and most active forum by some way - nothing else comes close. So it stands to reason that there will be more unpleasant posts. But that also means that it offers more support, too. You just need to post away from AIBU.

I used to be in Netmums. It was a gazillion times more judgemental

^ This x 1,000

NetMums Is really bad and sparkly.a cacophony of huns and bubbas

what’s supposed to be a forum for support

Large parts of MN, and in fact most of the threads on here, are for discussion not support. The ones asking for support are generally (but not always, admittedly) less judgemental. Plenty of threads (especially on AIBU) are started in order to provoke a lively debate.

An anonymous forum is always going to have some snarky people and some people with unhelpful opinions, which is why it's not always the best way of seeking support. I find MN amusing, fascinating and sometimes practically helpful. I wouldn't use it (or any other forum) as a support network if I had a serious rl problem though.

There's quite a few judgemental men on here too.

A whiny topic would be brilliant.

"You have to ignore the bile to get to the good advice."

Can any of us acknowledge what a shame it is that certain posters feel the need to project bile at another (potentially vulnerable) adult from the comfort of their own phone?

In fairness some people shout bile when they encounter any contrary opinion
Not all posters are vulnerable and not all posters are bilious
Everyone posts anonymously tapping on a iPad, phone that’s how it works

I would agree that the one time I was super depressed I got amazing support and advice. I think it all depends on whether or not you're in a place where you genuinely want advice or just want someone to stroke your hair and tell you it will all be alright. There are definitely some judgemental arses on here who think it's okay to be rude. It is possible to ignore them though.