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AIBU to ask for help with secret santa for mum-to-be?

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pinotnoirismyjam · 07/12/2019 20:27

Looking for some ideas - I want to get her something lovely and pampering for herself, but would it be better to get something for the baby?

Gift limit is £20, ideas of things that would be appreciated while pregnant are very welcome!

OP posts:
RedLipstickHighHeels · 07/12/2019 20:32

Sho insulated bottle, for late night feeds and padding about

RedLipstickHighHeels · 07/12/2019 20:32

Sho £20

AIBU to ask for help with secret santa for mum-to-be?
RaindropsRoses · 07/12/2019 20:34

Don't get her something for the baby, she is still her own person! A few years ago for my birthday when I was pregnant someone got me pregnancy stuff and I was actually quite annoyed by it, maybe that's just me though. But I wished they had just got me something like they would normally.

BinkyBaa · 07/12/2019 20:34

When is the baby due? If not for a while I'd probably avoid giving her something she cant use until then.

8paws8legs · 07/12/2019 20:39

Dont get gifts for a baby in an adult secret Santa, sanctuary spa do a nice mum to be pamper box, with a lovely scarf and hat set maybe or a cinema/restaurant voucher for her and other half to enjoy a date night, once baby is born these nights go on the back burner for a while!

cansu · 07/12/2019 20:50

just get her something nice that you would have got her before she was pregnant.

Cottipus · 07/12/2019 20:51

You can’t go far wrong with nice chocolates. I had loads when DD was a newborn.

Otherwise some nice shower gel is good. Didn’t often get time for a bath with a tiny baby but really appreciated some lovely shower gel my friend bought me. Just make sure it’s not unsuitable for pregnancy/breastfeeding.

Berrylove · 07/12/2019 20:57

If she’s far along a pregnancy massage wouldn’t go a miss.

Boy was I sick of people buying me baby clothes, sure I was grateful but it’s such an obvious present that the excitement runs out quickly so I’d avoid that.

Blondephantom · 07/12/2019 20:58

When I was pregnant, someone at work bought a baby outfit for my secret Santa. I was not even half way through and, although they didnt know, we had been told there was a high chance baby wouldn't make it through the difficult pregnancy. You can imagine how I felt. She is now a gorgeous, clever and slightly cheeky toddler.

Maybe your colleague is dealing with issues you dont know about. Maybe everything is fine. The secret Santa should be a gift for the person not their baby. Some nice toiletries or something you know she usually likes. Vouchers for an evening out.

Elenorrigbywoes · 07/12/2019 21:01

Nice pjs and a body moisturiser. I got a lovely Clairns one and H&M pjs from my best friend at Christmas before I had my baby.

TheQueenSnortsAvocados · 07/12/2019 21:04

What else is she, other than a "mum to be" ??

Original poster
pinotnoirismyjam · 07/12/2019 21:13

Thanks all for confirming it's best to get something for her rather than the baby. I was wondering if there might be something specific that would be appreciated while pregnant (having never been pregnant I don't really know), but sounds like something luxurious for her to enjoy would be best. I don't know her hugely well hence the need for some inspiration!

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Serabi · 07/12/2019 21:19

A fancy bottle of alcohol free gin or prosecco?
Big water bottle i was so thirsty when pregnant and bf
General pamper products
Cinema tickets so she can enjoy a film more baby

OhTheTastyNuts · 07/12/2019 22:19

An insulated mug!

PurpleDaisies · 07/12/2019 22:20

What would you get her if she wasn’t pregnant?

memaymamo · 07/12/2019 23:13

It really depends on the person, as some people would love sonething pregnancy related! I think it's lovely if you to think of it. The water bottle suggested actually sounds good to me because it's for her and it's useful whether pregnant or not, but particularly useful when pregnant or with a newborn.

Winterwoollies · 07/12/2019 23:59

If she’s anything like me, she won’t want anything baby related. Get her something for her.

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 08/12/2019 08:27

I would get her some lovely bath or shower things or a voucher for afternoon tea somewhere to enjoy before her baby is here. I think a lovely candle from woodwick or yankee would be nice too...

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 08/12/2019 08:31

Or if she is heavily pregnant how about a voucher for a pedicure or manicure? I couldnt see my toes when I was pregnant and it was so lovely when someone bought me a pedicure for my birthday.I went in to hospital with very pretty toes and happy feet and it made me feel really happy! Its the small things like that that can make a huge difference to your self esteem especially when you are struggling to bend in the middle!!!

Pinkblueberry · 08/12/2019 09:13

To be honest, excepting obviously alcohol, I would have liked exactly the same kinds of things that I would have had before I got pregnant. Definitely not something for the baby. You can do that on a separate occasion.

Neednameinspiration · 08/12/2019 09:36

The Neal's Yard Mother's Bath Oil is gorgeous. Can be used both before.and after pregnancy and is £15.50. Was bought some when I was pregnant and loved it!

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