Dog at Christmas

[Pumba3]

First up I’m aware I am probably in the minority but I don’t really like dogs! I don’t wish them any harm and abhor animal cruelty I just don’t want to share my personal space with them! Plus my son has an allergy to animal hair, especially dogs and cats. However, my bil is coming for Xmas and is insisting he brings his dog. Plenty of family members have offered to look after it but he can’t be parted from his pet. I’ve said no, he can come but the dog can’t. Not only do we not have animals in the house but we have spent a lot of time, money and effort renovating our house and I’m aware that the wee dog eats everything in sight and needs supervision. Plus he wants the dog to sleep in the spare bed with him! I’d love my bil to come for Xmas but cannot face having his pet in the house. It’s our family Xmas and I don’t think it’s fair to put me under pressure to share my space with someone else pet. Am I just being a madam?? Xx

Widdlin - can you not read or something? Her. Child. Is. Allergic.

Love my dog but completely accept that sometimes she isn't welcome! He's a complete arse sewing as though he has several offers of the dog being lovingly cared for whilst he visits.

Your house your rules and your BIL can then choose what he wants to do . FWIW my dsis wanted to host Christmas Day this year ( all local so no need to stay ) and I’ve said we will only go if our dog comes as well which she is fine with , however if she had said no we would have chose to stay home .

I'm a dog owner..and I'm with you OP...but don't expect BIL to come...it is your choice to say no to dog, and his to say ok no to visiting...maybe suggest looking at dog friendly accommodation locally...

I really like dogs and use to breed one of the largest breeds but would I allow a dog in my home now? No. DH is a bit allergic, I have a cat (who loves to annoy dogs) and I don't want dog smell in my house. And even my cat isn't allowed in bedrooms so there's no chance of a dog being allowed!

Your BIL is being mightily unreasonable insisting. If he doesn't want to come then fine but the dog isn't invited!

He wants the dog to sleep in the spare bed with him. Oh dear!

I mean this in the nicest way possible but thank god you have a viable reason to say absolutely no way!

I'm a dog lover but I'd never impose on someone in that way.

Hope the conversation goes well!

I love my dog but I'd never take him to a someone's house that didn't want him there!

You might just have to accept your bil will choose the dog over staying with you though!!

Your house and your rules as they say.
I just wonder is there a back story . Perhaps the dog has helped him in some way . 4 years ago I could safely say I felt similar to you ( minus the renovation)
Not quite sure how but a dog stole my heart .I was scared of them so a miracle.
Anyway we got a small puppy who changed our lives and got us through so much ,more than I would say here.
She is clean and better behaved than many children.
What I am saying there are all sorts of reasons why people get close to their pets.
So could there be something like this?