To send Christmas card to ex?

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We’ve been split up for about 5 months now. Normally I wouldn’t bother staying in contact with an ex but we work together so it’s a bit different.

Would it be weird if I sent him a Christmas card? I’d like to clear the air a bit and be able to have a normal working relationship (if possible!). I’m thinking it’ll be a bit less pressure than a text where he might feel like he has to reply, with a card he can just bin it if he wants to!

Should I send one? And if I did what would I write in it? Just keep it neutral with a happy Christmas message?

If you send christmas cards to other people you work with, then send him one. If you don't, then don't.

I wouldn’t. It’s a nice idea but I think he could misinterpret it. You can clear the air by consistently being ‘normal’ around him at work. Treat him like any other colleague. As I assume you aren’t sending them all cards I wouldn’t send him one either.

I wouldn't. I'd be civil and neutral at work but I'd wonder wtf you were sending me a card if you were my ex.

Do you send Christmas cards to other colleagues with whom you have normal working relationships?

I’d avoid sending a card. I doubt it will clear the air and if anything has the potential to make things a little awkward.

Yes sorry should have said I will be sending cards to other colleagues.

I realise it might be a bit awkward, but to be fair things are a bit awkward anyway so I figured it can’t make things much worse but might help if it was seen as a positive thing!

I’ll leave it though if that’s what the majority of people think.

Yes sorry should have said I will be sending cards to other colleagues

Then yes absolutely send the ex one or it looks like you are being petty. Just a bog-standard multi-card-pack one. "To Ex, Merry Christmas, DidYouHearThat" Handed out at the same time as everyone else's.

If you're sending to everyone then also send to him too.

dittoabove -if you are sending to everyone else, send him one. But a generic "merry christmas" one!