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To ask what your thoughts are (Godparents)

15 replies

BelleAmie · 07/12/2019 15:27

Assuming that you were to have your children baptised, would you choose the same Godparents for more than one child?

I.e if you had 3 Godparents for the baptism of DC1 and then several years later were to have DC2 Baptised...

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bridgetreilly · 07/12/2019 15:41

No, I would choose different ones, because I have a lot of friends who would make great godparents. But it's totally fine to choose the same people if you want.

BlackRibboner · 07/12/2019 15:44

All my children have different godparents, but don't see anything wrong with repetition. Surely it depends on what you expect from the godparent relationship and how many people you have in your life that might be able to offer that? If we had another we'd probably have to ask an existing one as we'd run out of willing friends

57mama · 07/12/2019 15:44

I didn't, but I already had more than 6 people I would've chosen so it was hard enough narrowing that down, never mind only 3. If you only have 3 people you want, though, and if they agree, go for it.

AG29 · 07/12/2019 15:58

Mine don’t have the same godparents. When I had my son I was 19 and still young. Godparents were college friends that I didn’t really stay in touch with nor have they bothered with DS.

When I had DD I had two of the same godparents (my long term best friend and my childhood neighbour whom I’m close to) but The rest were different . With DD we asked my brother and partners siblings to do the role. They would have been too young when DS was a baby. It was lovely because they really took the role seriously and are still in close contact with DD (and DS too of course).

doritosdip · 07/12/2019 16:01

No because if something happened to me, taking in multiple children might be too hard for the godparents.

GruciusMalfoy · 07/12/2019 16:04

No, I wouldn't necessarily choose the same. A godparent is someone to guide your child in religion, that doesn't have to be the sake person for multiple children, if you have more than one or two people to do the "job".

bridgetreilly · 07/12/2019 16:19

No because if something happened to me, taking in multiple children might be too hard for the godparents.

THIS IS NOT THE GODPARENTS' ROLE.

Legally godparents have no rights or responsibilities for children after the death of the parents. If you want to ask people to take that on, you need to name them as guardians in your will. You can do that whether they are family members or friends. You do not need to make them godparents, either way, and if you do have godparents, they will not automatically be the guardians unless you have set that up separately.

Witsend101 · 07/12/2019 16:22

All of our children have 1 Godparent in common and 2 godparents unique to them

moodolph · 07/12/2019 16:22

Different people. Although the same is also a nice idea. Yet I'm sitting here thinking I have never known or seen someone have the same godparents!

whiskeysourpuss · 07/12/2019 16:37

I'm godmother to all 4 of my best friends children & they have the same godfather.

She's also godmother to all 3 of mine but they all have different godfathers - DD1 has ex-h best friend, DD2 has my best friends husband & DS has my eldest brother.

usernamerisnotavailable · 07/12/2019 17:08

Traditionally children have three godparents I thought. A girl has two godmothers and one godfather and a boy the opposite. Never heard of them being the same person.

I'm a godmother to far too many children in my opinion. Never had that heart to say no though.

StCharlotte · 07/12/2019 17:18

No because if something happened to me, taking in multiple children might be too hard for the godparents.

Especially as I have seven godchildren!

Thank goodness this isn't actually a thing.

(doritosdip you really need to get a proper arrangement in place for your children )

TriciaH87 · 07/12/2019 23:33

Personally yes. A god parent is supposed to take on your child if something happens to both parents. Wouldn't you want them to stay together? Also I think that people would favour the child they are godparent too creating issues in future.

bridgetreilly · 07/12/2019 23:42

A god parent is supposed to take on your child if something happens to both parents

No, they aren't. That is not a thing. If you want to say who should take on your children in that case, you need to specify legal guardians in your will. Godparents do not have that responsibility. It's nothing to do with that.

StCharlotte · 08/12/2019 09:32

A godparent is to provide spiritual, pastoral and moral guidance etc, although I guess the people you choose as godparents might be the same people you'd want to take legal guardianship of your children should the worst happen.

No one should assume though and as I said above, you should make proper provision by way of a will or at least have a conversation.

churchofenglandchristenings.org/godparents/role-godparent/

www.catholiceducation.org/en/culture/catholic-contributions/the-role-of-godparents.html

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