Friend of mine is very critical, frequently angry with the world, very judgemental and has got worse in last 5 years. Tbh I love her dearly as she has a soft centre, we go back decades and I fear stressors that she's tried to outrun all her life are catching up with her.
Recently she exhausted the last medical investigation (3 years of various theories) to be told there's nowt physically wrong. I reminded her of her promise to consider AD's if all tests proved negative. She got really snappy and personally nasty to me. How come I was so clueless as to not to plan for X? Silly comments like that.
Later on we were discussing pets and she said in a high handed way that I didn't have "the tools" to successfully own a dog! I was just in the middle of gently calling her out on this when 2 acquaintances of hers stopped to say hi. She turned her back on me (this was at the entrance to my driveway) very pointedly and chatted away, leaving me standing there. If I walked off I'd have looked rude so I stayed put. I could see the 2 women were horrified at how she was behaving. One actually walked over and introduced herself. Tbh I was horrified by my friends rudeness.
Later I messaged her and said I thought she'd been very rude. She accused me of thinking the world was out to get me! I felt really annoyed with her and said that she knew very well she'd been appalling.
The weeks have rolled on since, no apology. She dropped a present in for my birthday, I for hers, but nothing else. My suspicion is that her mental health is in freefall, that she has an Eating Disorder (constantly dieting to get to size 4 from a size 6 but her natural size is really a 12) and I'm very worried about her. She is fat phobic and makes scatching comments about anyone who is overweight. But just mentioning the edge of this seemed to bring on the attack on me. Don't know what to think or do for the best....