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AIBU?

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To feel this way over tiny issues?

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misssCa · 06/12/2019 15:03

For as long as I can remember I have always become unseasonably upset if people say they will do something and then don't.

For example: "I will ring you in five minutes"

I will sit with my phone in my hand waiting until five minutes has passed and become unseasonably angry or upset (depending who it's directed towards) that they haven't called after five minutes.

It's also situations where people plan things with me a few weeks ahead and then cancel for whatever reason.

I seem to be incapable of doing anything spontaneous. Everything has to be planned at least two weeks in advance.

I have to write out what I want to put on a Christmas or birthday card on a piece of scrap paper to make sure what I write is perfect.

I feel I may be unreasonable, especially with the way I react towards people who don't stick to their word, but surely others feel this way, right? Is this just a personality thing or am I crazy?

I push a lot of people away with this behaviour and miss out on so many social events because of it. I'm also impossible to be in a relationship with and it's really beginning to effect me as well as those around me...

I'm sorry if this isn't really an AIBU, I know it annoys people...

OP posts:
Brimful · 06/12/2019 15:26

Sounds like you react strongly to being let down, and like to appear as perfectly as you can do and having control is important to you? None of these things are bad, as such, but if your quality of life is affected then it could be time to seek support?

I'm trying (failing) not to go all armchair psychologist but did you have a tough upbringing? I only say this as I resonate with a lot of what you said!

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