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Tigerlily1985 · 06/12/2019 12:24

I have just found out that my husband has been being dishonest with me and that it has been going on for a long time.

Some things are small and some are much larger-like a credit card debt he has had for all of our relationship (10 years+) that I wasn't told about.

I have a 4 month old baby and now know that he has been spending lunchtimes at the pub with his friend and trips to the cinema during the day when I would have really appreciated the help at home. I have been feeling low (possible PND) and have had very little support.

I have found things out due to looking at his texts which I have never felt the need to do before. It hurts that he is joking with his friend about a hot work colleague when I have been not feeling my best after the baby both physically and emotionally.

There have been a lot of things that he has done which have been dishonest and I just can't seem to get past my hurt and anger. I honestly thought we were on the same page about things as he knows how important honesty is to me.

He is currently staying with family as I can't have him at home at the moment. It's like i found out that he is a different person and I don't trust anything he says.

What's should I do?

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GoosetheCat · 06/12/2019 14:47

Honestly, it doesn't sound good. I wouldn't expect this behaviour from my DP, especially if I had a 4 month old. All the lies and deceit would be the end for me.

Sorry you're going through this Flowers

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