To ask if you’d have kids again?

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ust that really - would you have kids again, given the chance to make decisions again with the benefit of experience?

Don’t have children myself and while when I was younger I had a strong urge to, during single years I reconciled myself to it possibly not happening, and accepted that. Now I have a partner who would be happy to. I feel possibly that I’m less naive to the possibility nowadays that parenthood is very romanticised. Would you do it all again, if by some magic you found yourself back at the pre children stage of your life? What would you change if anything?

Despite all the hard work, tears and angst I'd still have my kids.
Had my DC when I was 29/31. I'd actually prefer to have had them a little earlier.
My DC completely changed me. For the better. Gone was the reckless living. I was mum and I relish the role.
Without wishing to sound like an idiot- they saved me.

I would and I’d change some aspects of how I parented. It’s easy to look back in hindsight though, at the time you’re mired in the madness.
I think I’ve been a better parent in the last 5 years as was far too shouty before then and some of that was from stress and frustration. Now I rarely shout and it’s usually cos they can’t hear me calling them.
I wouldn’t have more now though even if I was 10 yrs younger. Was def the right decision to stop at 2. I’d be curious to see if different choices led to different outcomes -even things like choice of secondary - but that’s the sliding doors thing isn’t it?
At rising 16 & 18 I think I (we) have produced pretty good young adults really. No major issues so far, a bit of mental health (again I wonder if we could have forseen this but could also be genetic).

If I could change one thing, I would leave the abusive father when I was pregnant.

I almost did, but let him talk me round. That was the mistake.

No