To be angry at him interrogating my daughter ?

[anon12300]

So my daughter is 13 years old. Her dad left and had a baby with another woman. Baby is now around 5-6 months old now. She went up to see her baby brother on Tuesday and innocently took a picture of him. She then sent the picture to my exs gf daughter ( they have each other's numbers) because she thought she might like to see it and then this Daughter of his gf must have told her mum about the pic because my ex text my daughter interrogating her saying 'did you take a picture of xxxxx'
My daughter said yes
He said 'did you post anywhere'
And she said 'no no no' ( she's been warned by me to keep any pictures of her brother absolutely private) which she has
She's then says 'I'm in trouble not arnt I'
He relied 'no your not in trouble but don't post anywhere and don't you show mummy his picture you better listen to me'
Its annoyed me that he's made her feel like shit for taking a picture of her brother and Also for threatening her not to show me ( Which of course she wouldn't do anyway as it's none of my business!) bearing in my mind this gf has been posting these pictures on Facebook as public since he's been born 🤦🏻‍♀️ I asked him why did he question her like that and he said because his gf wasn't happy that my daughter has taken a picture of her son Incase she shows me!
I'm angry at how his gf can be so petty!!

Take your DD for a Starbucks/Pret/Costa treat tomorrow morning to show that you're on her side, seeing as her father has created sides, the fool. My daughter loves it on the rare occasions that I surreptitiously support her

Would they have reacted differently to the girlfriends dd taking a photo of her brother? Yeah I bet there is no problem here.

The issue is that your ex is a total twat and can’t stand up for his own dd. If this is the way she’s treated she’ll end up resenting him and not wanting to visit.... hell mend him, that’s his own fault.

@Hepsibar, that'd be all fine if the mother herself doesn't regularly splash the child all over her (public) social media.

Thank you everyone!! The most funniest thing of this situation is she has pictures of my son taken by herself in her phone when she has only known my ex a few weeks after they took him to the park which I didn't know about and as far as I was aware he was in town with my ex 🤦🏻‍♀️
They both want my children to bond with their baby but if they carry on over a picture there will be no bond

Its sad that your daughter isn't allowed to be excited about her own baby brother.

What damage do they think you seeing a picture is going to do? People are mental.

I'm going to do one of those crazy MN conspiracies here:
I reckon she doesn't actually know if the baby is his and she's worried you'll see the baby bears no resemblance

It is sad, my dc have a another sibling and when they were born I made sure they got taken to hospital etc to meet new sibling.

I stayed well away as I wasn’t interested or thought it was appropriate, but now 15 years later the siblings have a good bond

You can only do what you can do

Perhaps explain to your D.C. that hormones from having baby make parents act a bit funny and you’re sure things will settle down, erasure that they haven’t done anything wrong

She's unhinged.

This doesn’t add up. Why doesn’t she want you to see a picture of the child? I assume there’s some massive back story here that you’re not telling us?

Are they going to adopt a Michael Jackson approach and throw a blanket over him if you accidentally come into his presence?

This ^

She's barking!

It was two questions. Two questions. That is not an interrogation.
And DD13 is his daughter too. He can text her two questions if he feels like it about anything.
So, YABU

Hard call, he sounds like a bit of an arse, but I don’t allow pictures of my son on social media. I also wouldn’t appreciate finding out people had been sending photos of him to other people without my permission. My 12 year old god daughter took a picture and immediately put it on snapchat, her mother made her delete it. I think children (and some adults!), don’t understand how dangerous social media can be and how easily photos can be stolen and misused. Once those photos are out there, they are impossible to get back. Once my son is old enough he can decide for himself. At the moment he is too young to consent to his image being distributed online.

I’m not allowed to see photos of my exH’s new baby. My DC have literally two physical pictures of their brother and he’s 6 months old. ExH has never been allowed to send me digital photos. He knows full well I have zero interest in spreading them on social media, it’s not my style, and only a passing interest in the actual baby! I just think it would be nice for my DC to have photos of the baby as they very rarely get to meet him (have seen him twice, very briefly, in his whole life). But the baby’s mum won’t let him share anything with me. It’s odd, especially as I am willing to help facilitate a relationship between the DC for their sakes, but I guess it’s her choice.

She's another insecure psycho it seems. Why does she think you care about seeing her precious darling anyway?

but I don’t allow pictures of my son on social media. I also wouldn’t appreciate finding out people had been sending photos of him to other people without my permission

Yeah, but this mother has the baby on social media, and the baby's sister took his photo and sent it to the baby's other sister...🤷🏻‍♀️

It's not a hard call. The mother is being unreasonable about the child's sister taking a photo. The father is being a plonker for enabling her. Fair enough he she didnt want her sending it to all sundry. But once ate confirmed she didn't, and she wouldn't that should have been the end of it.

And it sounds like it was. He didn't interrogate her 😉

Absolure dicks the pair of them 😡

Your poor DD 😢

Are you sure that the girlfriend is the one behind all this?

From what you've posted, it looks as though it's your ex who has the issues. Has the girlfriend ever spoken to your DD about it or does it always come via your ex?