Pregnant on mat leave

[Jadefeather7]

I’ve become pregnant (unplanned) on mat leave and I feel so nervous and ashamed about telling my boss and colleagues about it. I’m the first woman in my office to have got pregnant (been there for ten years). I only have a few months to go and then I’ll be on mat leave again. I guess it’s inevitable that people will talk and joke about it and I probably shouldn’t care, but I just don’t know how not to.

Don’t feel ashamed. These things happen.

I found out I was pregnant with my 2nd on the 2nd week back to work after my first - was mortified.

But I’ve been back 2 years after my 2nd mat leave - it does absolutely fly by and then life (sort of) carries on

Congratulations!

Ah I’ve been there. It all was fine, they’re now 10 and 9 and great friends. Wouldn’t have it any other way. Congratulations

Congratulations on your lovely news!!! Please don't feel or act ashamed! I've seen this happen several times and it's really not big a deal. Just present the news in a very happy and excited way, and people will be pleased for you (and maybe feel some sympathy/awe too!!)

Out of the whole lifespan of your career, it's hardly any time away from work at all.

It's fine, just make sure you let them know in enough time for them to keep your maternity cover on!

Also, your maternity pay for no 2 is still calculated on what you earn in weeks 17 - 25 of your pregnancy. If you are on maternity pay still during those weeks then it will be calculated on that not your normal salary.

Something to think about when planning when to go back from mat leave no 1.

Been there done that. Went back to work from maternity nearly 7 months pregnant! Was completely fine. It's no different than taking maternity a year or two down the line.

Thanks. I’ve worked out the pay and I should be fine. It’s just the embarrassment thing really. I was so shocked when I found out and friends and family were v v surprised too. We have been together 8 years and never had this happen. I know in the grand scheme of things it won’t natter eventually.
I just feel like I will be seen as not being committed to my career which is just not true. It’s something I really value.

I'm in the same position. Nervous about telling because I'll be 20w when I'm back... but it is what it is . Nothing they can really do!

Don’t be ashamed. I got pg accidentally while on ml with my first. They are now 6 and 5 and so close. 😊 From a career perspective, I think Two leaves super close together is probably less disruptive then coming back for a year or two then going off again, especially if you stop at 2 kids.

This has happened to me and it doesn't bother me because family is more important than career. Congrats :)

I know family is more important but I can’t seem to shake of this feeling.
I feel ok in general but when I’m around my colleagues (I’ve been in for a few KIT days) I start to feel really bad about it.