Am i being unreasonable?
inmyshoos · 05/12/2019 11:55
I came down with a horrible 24 hr bug yesterday. Was in bed all day felt very ill.
Partner was at work but said if i was off sick today he'd come see me. Tbh i did say i didnt want him to catch the bug. Lots of calls and messages to check on me.
Today he didnt offer to come so i assumed doesnt want to get bug and he is recovering from a cold and said he felt rubbish but then later when i messaged and offered he can come over he was off out doing his hobby. Which i know makes him feel better but i can't help feeling a little disappointed that there was no offer today of coming over when he was so insistent yesterday that he'd come even if he had to wear a mask. Maybe he just felt he'd rather do his hobby and not risk the bug. Just makes me feel a little less cared for but maybe im being all dramatic because im under the weather!!
andpancakesforbreakfast · 05/12/2019 12:12
You were really unwell, he offered to help.
You are better today, and he has plans, why should he cancel them? Unless you specifically ask him for help - and we don't know he wouldn't come straight away, you are massively BU.
Don't be that needy, it really is not attractive.
inmyshoos · 05/12/2019 12:15
I didnt say no throwaway i just said i really dont want him to get this bug. But later on the phone he said he would come over and wear a mask etc. I didn't ever say no or dont come.
If he said today look if you're sure your fine and dont need anything i will just stay away then id feel ok fair enough. It was the lack of care on offer today after feeling so cared for yesterday. Today it makes me feel yesterday was just lip service ... but i know im probably super sensitive from being unwell.
Neome · 05/12/2019 12:20
You are being ill with a virus (I'm guessing) which can often make people feel a bit down especially as you recover.
If you want to feel less down things like a gratitude list, reading or watching something that will make you laugh and consciously trying to turn your thoughts away from anything gloomy might stop the bug dragging into a puddle of self pity.
Your partner sounds like he loves you very much. How about sending him a message saying you miss him and how much it meant to you that he was willing to visit yesterday?
Get well soon
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