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To want to move home before Christmas?

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mummydoris2006 · 05/12/2019 10:40

We are currently waiting for a moving date after selling our home and due to DH having an operation at the end of the month we really need to move before Christmas. We sold our home in October and are in a chain of 5, everything has progressed easily and we've stated from the beginning the timeframe we needed to move in. We are fully packed due to going on holiday next week ( booked over a year ago) and to be honest it's stressful living in what seems to be a storage facility at the minute.
We've had a call today saying that the people buying our buyers home don't want to move until January as they want a final Christmas in their family home. I am so upset by this, they knew the circumstances and everyone had agreed a before Christmas date. We have lived in our property for 18 years and I feel if we have to be there over Christmas it means unpacking to re-pack, we have nowhere for decorations etc due to boxes everywhere and for the first time ever I was hosting Christmas due to us having the space in our new home.
Am I being unreasonable to want to put pressure on them?

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mummydoris2006 · 05/12/2019 10:40

Sorry, forgot to add DH will be immobile for 6 weeks after his op!

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positivity123 · 05/12/2019 10:47

That's so tough. You could call their bluff and say if that they are changing what has been discussed and therefore due to your husband's op you will need to pull out and the chain will collapse. That would put everyone against them and probably get things moving?

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 05/12/2019 10:48

No... YANBU.... It's a rubbish situation... I don't think wanting to '' spend a last Christmas in our home' cuts it really.....

I wonder if they're having second thoughts?...

Presumably they knew this when they put their house on the market.... They should have been clear...

Yes.. I would deffo put pressure on......im not sure the best way to do this.....

Assume you should tell YOUR buyers that whatever THEIR buyers are doing, you need to go ahead as arranged... As you have arranged this due to your husbands surgery and recovery...

But I guess this close to Christmas it isn't even an option to re market it... No one apart from your buyers presumably have the chance to complete and move this side of Christmas.

SmoothOrange · 05/12/2019 10:58

YANBU

You need to stand firm and like a pp said, advise that you will have to pull out if they are moving the goalposts

JadeDragon23 · 05/12/2019 10:58

Yanbu op. But in the kindest way, in a chain of 5...regardless of what was said it was always optimistic of you to think a move late in December would go ahead.

As you’re away next week, when were you expecting to complete...after the 16th? I can’t personally think of a worse time to move and I’d hazard a guess that more than one out of the other 4 in the chain feel the same.

You can try and pressure but they’re just as easily able to call your bluff...pulling out at this stage would massively be cutting your nose off and the others will know it.

Personally I would go back with an ‘either 17th Dec or 1st March) or after your dh’s recovery period but expect it to be the latter.

Walesnotwhales · 05/12/2019 10:59

We’re in a chain. We’d also like to move pre Xmas, because all our belongings are in storage while we live with a relative. We want to have Christmas with our own decorations in our own home.

We made it clear from the outset of our offer (Sept), that we were wanting a 2019 completion - wouldn’t want to take part in a chain that stretches to 2020. But here we are 🤷🏼‍♀️ The agent keeps saying the rest of the chain wants to complete pre Xmas, but we’re pretty confident that’s a massive porky pie.

I do understand why people wouldn’t want to move pre Xmas, and know there’s nothing I can do about it, so have made my peace with the situation.

MzHz · 05/12/2019 11:07

We had this shit. Our vendors’s vendor suddenly realised that she needed work done, that the dogs would have to go to kennels blag blah so fucking what

We said hell no. We weren’t going to wait or delay completion

Our vendor was a bit wet so he went and stayed with neighbours for a few days, then did Christmas at his parents and then moved.

I think the entire chain will tell these people to ftfo

If it’s a unilateral no, they will have to reconsider. Solicitors and agents will tell them straight too.

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mummydoris2006 · 05/12/2019 11:09

Thanks everyone, it's my first post on her and I was expecting to get lynched to be honest!

I've realise I've put a chain of 5 but it's actually only 4, us and one other being mortgaged the rest being mortgage free. I do know that all others apart from these want the move to happen before Christmas as they are all packed etc too. Also I trust the agents 100% (it's my mum!!!!)

I do think part of the problem maybe that I've started emotionally detaching myself from our bungalow where we are now and would hate our last Christmas to be one surrounded by boxes.

I know there are people facing much bigger issues this Christmas and everyday and it's not huge in the bigger scheme of things and hopefully I'll find peace with the situation too like you have @Walesnotwhales. I hope you get a Christmas miracle.

Sorry don't mean to drip feed but the other thing is if we don't get moved Christmas Dinner will be at my parents with me sat on their settee looking out their window at my new house!!!

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mencken · 05/12/2019 11:28

oh well, worse things happen. Annoying and inconvenient, but weeks of farting about for one day now seems to be ingrained in our culture.

without exchange you never had a guaranteed date. Try the tactic about your husband's operation (which is a real reason, not the tatfest) but I'm afraid that it was always chancy. You'll need to get packers as well as movers. Sorry!

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mummydoris2006 · 05/12/2019 11:37

Thanks everyone, we put the pressure on said we would pull out of the chain and literally in the space of one phonecall have just been told it's happening on the 18th.

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MzHz · 06/12/2019 11:29

Yay!!!! Well done op! Good for you!

EL8888 · 06/12/2019 11:43

They shouldn't be move the goalposts at this late stage. I would decline, explaining you have already been patient, are already packed and your husband had a big operation coming up. Unless they want to defer until he has recovered well into 2020

Walesnotwhales · 08/12/2019 11:07

Yay! That’s brilliant, OP!!

Very pleased for you, all fingers and toes crossed that it all completes Xmas Smile

Walesnotwhales · 22/12/2019 17:06

@mummydoris2006 did you complete? Are you in??

We had a completion date set of 16th Jan... and then literally 24hours later, got the message that the chain has collapsed again. Xmas Sad

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mummydoris2006 · 22/12/2019 17:58

@Walesnotwhales that's awful, so sorry for you. No we are still in our original home, apparently there is a dispute over a 6ft piece of land at the beginning of the chain. It's looking like mid to late January but I daren't get my hopes up

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