So me and this woman have worked in the same office for about 10 years and have always got on pretty well as friends. Iv always had a lot of time for her and I think she’s a great person.
About 6/7 months ago she messaged me one evening asking if I was ok as I’d seemed a bit down (which I was). She then messaged other times checking up on me which I thought was nice of her and she seemed genuinely interested in how I was.
A few months a go we had a few days where we were alone together for long periods during the day so got chatting about each other’s lives and I opened up a little to her. Again, she seemed interested in what I had to say. She also has a rough time at home and opened up to me a little as well.
We got on well but found it hard to chat alone with other work colleagues around so she suggested we went for tea some time after work to have a good chat.
I think she originally suggested a date which was agreed but something came up her end and it didn’t go ahead. She then suggested a further date, but again, it didn’t go ahead. I also suggested further dates, to which she agreed, but again, either something came up or she just acted like nothin was agreed and never mentioned it.
I even said to her we’ll just leave it if you want as the moment has probably passed now (3 months a go it was first mentioned), but she insisted she still wanted to go for tea so we agreed another date. Again, she said she’d confirm and let me know, but nothing! Sometimes I messaged her a couple of days before to remind her to confirm with me, she said she would the next day, but no message came!
The latest occasion, I didn’t remind her to see if she remembered, but no message came to confirm. On the day we had verbally agreed to go out after work, during the day at work she didn’t mention it at all and barely spoke to me. It’s just always like we never had the conversation?
Ive said on numerous occasions it’s totally fine if you’ve changed your mind so I don’t understand why she insists she still wants to but then blanks me after we’ve agreed a date.
We are both in unhappy relationships with kids but this has only ever been a friendship with nothing else on the cards as far as I’m concerned.
Ami right to feel abit messed around? I guess I should just leave it and forget about it? I do value her friendship but feel a little let down. I’m a very private person so it would be nice to have her as a friend to chat to as I don’t really trust anyone else to open up to when I’m feeling down but she’s making it impossible and I don’t understand why.