Am I in the wrong?

[Jamielyn]

Hi all,

Just want to air something out that happened early on tonight.

My cat wears a cone and most nights we let her have it off so she can clean herself. I went to put it back on before we went to bed and I was struggling slightly because she was led on my stomach and I was also led down. My DP could see that I was struggling and offered to help, then I managed to get it on. He grabbed my wrist and yanked it away. I felt it was quite forceful so I just slapped his hand away.

He's now called me a c u next Tuesday for slapping his hand after he grabbed my wrist. I told him it was 6 of one and half a dozen of the other and we both should apologise. He's not having it and told me that I assaulted him.

I think we're both at fault here, but he's now making me feel really guilty. I've apologised and said that I feel he should too but he's not having it.

Please answer honestly, but not horrible, I'm aware the situation is abit tedious.

Sounds to me as if you reacted instinctively to someone grabbing your wrist.

Your relationship sounds awful. Is this usual? I’d be horrified if someone called me a cunt!

@puds11
This is the first time he's ever called me this. We've been together 10 years. It's a sudden outburst come out of nowhere.

I’d definitely say he was in the wrong grabbing you then calling you that. I find that quite hard to forgive. Are you having a rough time atm?

It's hard for us to tell I'm afraid as we weren't there so can't tell who grabbed/slapped harder. All I would say is that In the 20 years ex and I were together, we never slapped/grabbed/nor called each other c@@@ once.

It sounds like a one off.

But he needs to apologise

He’s saying you assaulted him for slapping his hand away after he grabbed your wrist? And he called you a cunt? This is the first time he’s done this? How is the rest of the relationship?

None of that would happen in our relationship. It doesn't sound the most respectful of relationships.

I'm not sure why he needed to grab your wrist if you managed to do it anyway.

I'd say it's a symptom of something else that's wrong. You don't love someone in a sweet and nice relationship for 10 years then grab them and call them a c**t for no reason. Why's he been a twat? If he's got no answer, ltb, because he's obviously just decided to be a horrid arsehole.