Am I overthinking this?

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KateDenton32 · 04/12/2019 21:27

I am arranging to meet one of my friends next week weekend. I had a specific day in the diary (next Wednesday) arranged with her for about three weeks now.

She has just got back to me asking if I am still okay for Wednesday, but also did I mind if her other friend (they are very close) joins us too. She says that her other friend is coming to visit her next week weekend, as it is the only time she is free before Christmas. My friend did say 'if you'd rather do another time no worries'.

Do you think that this is a sign that my friend was too nervous to meet me on her own, or am I overthinking it?

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KateDenton32 · 04/12/2019 21:28

Apologies - I think autocorrect inserted 'weekend'. We're meeting next Wednesday.

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Looneytune253 · 04/12/2019 21:29

I think you're overthinking it! Sounds like her friend was only free on one day

RockinHippy · 04/12/2019 21:33

I think you are over thinking. It just sounds as she explains it. She has a friend come & stay, possibly unexpectedly, maybe because she's flaky & forgot that the 2 would clash. Either way she's rightly feels it's rude to leave her visitor to come & meet you. She's in a bit of an awkward situation.

I can understand why you feel uncomfortable about it as it will change the dynamics of your meet up, but it just sounds like one of those things & shes sounds like she will understand if you postpone until she's free on her own.

Drum2018 · 04/12/2019 21:35

She might just want to get the 2 meet ups done as it suits you and other friend, rather than trying to organise another day with her other friend. If you know and get on with her other friend I'd go. If you don't know her very well it might not be much of a catch up with your friend as one or other will possibly feel left out of conversations.

RockinHippy · 04/12/2019 21:35

Oops, I somehow missed that this is the only free weekend that your friends visitor has. The rest still stands though

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KateDenton32 · 04/12/2019 21:41

Ah, thanks everyone! I do tend to overthink things quite a bit in a very self-critical way...

I know her other friend (not well - admittedly) but we have spoken before, so I think it will be good to go.

I am a very shy person, and I think that my friend knows that! :)

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mrsbyers · 04/12/2019 21:45

Go for it , some of my closest friends I’ve made through other friendships

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