Okay so DH is a brilliant daddy, and he looks after the DC's equally with me because he works 5am (gets up at 4.15am) -1pm and I work 1.30pm - 6.30pm. He also has to take me and pick me up from work as public tranapsort near us is pants. All this on top of his very physical job. So his sleep is important and hence our rediculously early, self-enforced bedtime of 9.30pm, to make sure we get enough (sleep ).
Therefore if the DC's wake in the night I see to them so he is not disturbed, as I sometimes get the chance to make up for it if DC's dont wake too early (a rare occurence though)
Every Tuesday he plays squash with friends and goes for a drink afterwards, usually getting in about 10.30pm - I quite enjoy these nights as I also get me time with a good film or book and one late night doesnt make to much difference - so I dont mind him going out at all and I go swimming on a Wednesday anyway.
But his friends all have 9-5 desk jobs and there DW are either SAHM or work and have childcare arrangements by someone else, so they dont have as much responsibility for thier children as DH does with his, in terms of afternoon entertainment, collection from pre-school and dinner time etc.
But lately DH has been getting home gone 11pm, and I am so cross that he doesnt stand up to his friends and say I am walking home now if you're not driving me, or on nights he is driving say I am going now, if you want a life you should drink up.
It's not like they dont know what he does as we are good friends as couples with thier wives too etc.
The last 2 nights have been crap for me as DS is teething and his crying has disturbed DD so I have been downstairs for long periods cuddling DS back to sleep after calpol, or running in and out of DD's bedroom trying to get her to go back to sleep.
His total lack of concern at his late nights feel like a bit of a slap to me because I would love him to help me in the night just once in a while so I am not down on my sleep.
Rant over - IABU but wanted to get it off my chest!
Thank you