To resent DP

[Jellybeans101]

This is long but will try and shorten, had such a shitty year got made redundant a couple of months ago - absolutely crap considering I was 7 months pregnant.

I’ve applied for maternity allowance until I can go back to work (still waiting but who isn’t?)

We bought a house in August and DP has had the mammoth task of decorating and getting it ready for the new bundle of joy so he’s working full time covering all of our bills and renovating house at any spare second.

God love him I couldn’t ask anymore than he’s doing however - I take the brunt of his moods
He’s snappy/stressy and tells me to do things to help him but in a headmaster kind of way (orders if you like) complains of his work load complains of his tiredness/aching limbs yet I’m due to give birth to my first this week and feel he’s putting on me a lot and not really considering how I’m feeling I know I’m vulnerable cause I’m about to pop but it’s making me really angry.

Take a deep breath, you are both under a lot of stress. The next few weeks will be a blur of nappies and no sleep, be kind to each other.

One of the best bits of parenting anyone every taught me was 'This is a phase and it to will pass'. I use this all the time as a general rule of thumb for life.

@wannabegreenfingers

Thank you, that’s what I thought.
That’s a nice piece of advice too :)

Are you considering how he’s feeling though?

Don’t get into competitive tiredness / who has it worse before the baby has even got here.

@potteringalong
Yes I do, I make sure he’s got everything he needs, I do nice things for him tell him how much I appreciate everything he’s doing for us like i said I can’t ask any more of him.
Whilst you’re right it’s not a competition of who’s the most tired I don’t ever complain to him as he would say I’m being extremely dramatic - I do however wish he’d consider ranting at me every single night he gets home a little much.

Why is he working and doing the decorating - can't you help him? I spent most of my bonus overdue days up a stepladder doing our nursery.

@astrabees - yes I have helped paint etc I’m not being precious but I’m not handy enough to be tiling the bathroom and laying wooden flooring.