AIBU to be uncertain about baby 2

[Floopyandtired]

Sorry I appreciate this has probably been done to death...

DP and i have DS who is 2. We are very content as we are, but DP would love a second child. Before I became a parent I always assumed I’d have two children, but the thought of a second makes me turn cold, mainly because I’d feel like DS2 would get so much less of my attention and I’d only be a “half good” parent to both children (if that makes sense?!)

We are very fortunate and can afford a second, we have family around, we have local flexible jobs, on paper we “should” cope easily should we have a second. So why am I not feeling it... I don’t feel broody. I don’t miss the baby days. I don’t see how DS would benefit from a sibling. AIBU to feel like this?

Nope. I also have a 2 year old and the idea of doing it again fills me with horror.... No way. Like you I always thought that if I ever had kids I'd have more than one

YANBU to be content with one. But if your husband really wants a second, you might find yourself under a lot of pressure. I think a lot of people have plans about the number of kids they want to have and then have children and change their mind. You don't really know for sure until you have them I think. We are sticking at one for various reasons, including what you said. We are complete as a family of three and like our life this way.

I wouldn't assume your feelings won't change. It took me until DS was four to start missing the baby days and really wanting to do it all over again. He's now just turned six, I'm 26 weeks pregnant and couldn't be more excited.

I completely understand what you mean! I’m pregnant with a surprise second baby after my DS was IVF (so long waited for) and I couldn’t help but feel slightly resentful and upset when I first found out as I just felt dreadful for my DS as he’s still so small.

But now I’m further along I’m beginning to get more excited and hope they have a lovely bond

I am almost six weeks pregnant with our second. Ds is only 11 months old.
I am dreading labour and those first few weeks of round the clock feeds/changes etc!
I am also worried about how my boy will react. I don't regret it though; I am an only and hate it.

I found the second child soooo m bc easier than first child, I was more relaxed, I knew what I was doing and when it gets hard (because it can be) I just think that I’m giving my eldest the greatest gift in the form of a sibling.. however this is my experience everyone’s is different and you have to do what’s right for you and your family.